Sunday, October 31, 2010

Do Short Men Stand A Chance

Do Short Men Stand A Chance Cover
You were always the small guy of the bunch: the one who was chosen last in the basketball line-up; the one who was afraid he wouldn't get a date for the high school prom.

But just because your pants are shorter and you need to look up to most of those around you, it doesn't mean that you should also have short expectations when it comes to dating and life.

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Besides, what do I mean by short? Anyone is short next to Shaquille O'Neal, Conan O'Brien and the leggy Gisele Bundchen , so they are no indication of the norm. Regular height for a man ranges between 5'8" and 5'11", while "short" for men, according to clothing sizes, ranges from 5'4" to 5'7". Now even if you don't reach the average height, there's no reason to feel insecure or lacking in any way. Height is overrated and not something that women place high on their list of priorities.

Even the heights of the "shorter" Al Pacino , Tom Cruise , Bono , Jason Priestly, Prince, and businessman Jack Welch have nothing to do with their power or presence.

But in our prejudiced society, where certain norms and expectations rule, we all want to be part of the crowd, and even meet or exceed standards. Even Louis the 14th wore 5-inch high-heel shoes, which helped popularize the shoes no man today can grasp.

The King's shoes became popular for women, to say the least, and today females slip on everything from the stiletto and the platform to the pump.

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I rounded up a group of girlfriends in order to determine whether a man's height is really that important; you may or may not be surprised with the results.

While Janine said, "as long as a man has a personality, his height doesn't matter," Stacey quipped, "it's what a man does with his height that really counts."

Gina placed intelligence and a wicked sense of style very high on her list of prerequisites, and Iris agreed with Janine in stating that a personality is of prime importance -- in terms of "confidence, sense of humor, wit, and a killer smile."

Let's not be nave though; Steffi said that she always dreamed of "a tall, dark man to whisk her away," as did Andrea, who responded that she only dates men who stand taller than 6 feet. Okay, these two women are 5'11".

You've surely heard this before, but women look for the following in a man:

* intelligence
* ambition
* genuine kindness and caring
* witty sense of humor
* sense of style
* confidence
* good looks

Let it be known that this checklist is not in order of importance, and you don't need to be born with good looks in order to look good. That's where the gift of grooming and fashion come into play.

What you can do to get the girls Show off your other traits
When talking to a woman you've just met, show her your sense of humor and charm. Don't remain focused on your height, or whomever you're talking to will also concentrate on whatever you don't like about yourself.

Show her your standout personality by being attentive, cracking a joke or two, flirting, and being the gentleman that you are. A trick is to be friendly to others you meet (especially when the object of your affection is around), and she'll see that you're naturally a nice guy who's friendly to everyone because you're comfortable in your own skin. And if your personality shines through and your appearance is great to boot, she'll be looking up to you all night, as will all the other men.

Be confident

Confidence is of prime importance when talking to a woman or anyone for that matter.

If you're feeling sorry for yourself and blaming your lack of dates on your miserable height, women will believe this too. Nothing turns women off more than a man who's insecure and unhappy with himself, but if you're confident, she'll forget about your height altogether. The trick is to be confident without being arrogant -- you can feel like you're great, but don't act like you're on a throne and deserve a royal salute.

Go after shorter women

If you feel that taller women may not give you the time of day, and you don't want to be reminded of your height whenever you're walking side-by-side -- even when she's not in heels -- just go for women that are your height or a bit shorter.

There are plenty of gorgeous, petite women, so it's up to you to approach them. I don't even consider this to be lowering your standards since going for women who are not model-height isn't exactly scraping the bottom of the barrel; but hey, if your dream girl is a woman who makes Elle MacPherson look like a dwarf, you may just have to aim a little lower.

Definite don'ts:

Don't bulk up

You can go to the gym and get in shape, but don't overcompensate for your height by making up for it in width. You don't want to look like one of those men who have huge arms and wear tight T-shirts to show of their bulging biceps, so that people won't notice their height. This will only make you look stubby and stumpy -- and men, remember that proportion is key.

Don't feel sorry for yourself

Even if you feel that all your problems are due to your lack of height, this negative attitude will only make things worse in your life. It's tempting to make like George Costanza and be miserable, but your self-pity will only make you look smaller in others' eyes.

Measure your success

While you may like to compare yourself to your tall buddies, you'll have to accept that your height isn't something you can change, at least not until men's heels return to mainstream.

This means that you'll have to make everything else about yourself grand -- your intelligence, sense of humor, personality, confidence, charisma, and style. And if this seems like a tall order to fill, just think of it as your rise to the top.

by Heidi Muller

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