Tuesday, October 25, 2005

The Hollywood Romantic Love Myth

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One of the biggest road blocks for most guys when it comes to establishing long term relationships, is the misconception that relationships happen overnight. Hollywood has berated us since we were young with "romantic love", that guy and girl experience love at first site and everyone lives happily ever after. In the end, this Hollywood "love" myth has messed up many guys' minds. We're out looking for "true love" and instant relationship, but the fact is the quicker a relationship starts the sooner it ends.It's psychological - the longer a relationship takes to develop, the larger the subconcious investment that is made by both parties. As an analogy, look at the relationship process as something similar to weaving a thick rope out of string.

Let's say you impress a girl and she gives you her phone number: You've just laid the first string. You call her, and she's receptive to your call: You've just coiled a second string around the first string. A week goes by, and you're having friendly conversations on the phone: More strings are being coiled. You go on your first date and all goes well: More strings have been coiled. She introduces you to her parents: More strings. By now you should see the pattern going on - the longer the dating/relationship process continues, the more strings that are being added to this emerging "rope". Relationships tend to end before they start , which should be shining bright and clear for you right about now. They end before they start because there are no "strings" creating the psychological element known as "attachement". What's interesting is that if you keep this on your mind WHENEVER around women, you can then make it a point to act and behave in relation, making it a goal to be constantly establishing "strings" with all of them. This comes with it's pros and cons: A pro would be that you might find yourself eventually dating quite a few women simultaneously.

A con would be that you get so used used to establishing strings with numerous women, that you become a womanizer of sorts, because that's all you know. Womanizer's are what they are by habit. Womanizer (n): a man who likes many women and has short sexual relationships with them Strings of Attachement: It's all about the "Little Things" Ultimate success with women comes down to this: You can't attach to them - you have to let them attach to you. How do you do this? It's all about your demeanor and presentation. How you package yourself (the clothing you choose to wear), how you carry yourself (your attitude and posture), and what you choose to say or not say. Not all women attach to the same qualities in men, but most women attach to the qualities exerted by a Mr. Right. Here's some common qualities for creating strings of attachement: * Acting confident in her presence * Maintaining a positive attitude in the wake of negativity * An attitude of success - If you're not already a success, carrying yourself as if you know you one day will be(ambition) * Acting upbeat and lighthearted with other people around her. (This is a prime example of how to attract a woman without doing or saying anything to her.

In fact, a powerful method is to exert the qualities above with individuals around the woman in your sights, at the same not paying much attention to the woman. By not paying much attention to her, you take her presence for granted, becoming an instant "challenge". And the more beautiful a woman is, the more powerful is this effect. So, be confident and have fun with the people around the woman you're attracted to, at the same time not seeming to pay much attention to the woman. Be patient, knowing that all the while you're establishing subconscious strings of attachement with her... and days, weeks, or even months down the road, when you finally do position yourself in a way to start "getting to know" her better, she'll be excited for the opportunity.) With the woman in the paragraph above, you've been weaving strings of attachement left and right for days, weeks, maybe even months, and this is why she's "excited" to finally go out with you. Simply put: She thinks she's in love.

Suggested reading (free books):

Joy Of Life - West Hollywood Bars Clubs Restaurants List Brochure
Michael Webb - The Romantic Guide

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Do Women Enjoy Being Hit On

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Do women enjoy being hit on - or do they loathe it? If you know women love it, you're well on your way to experiencing massive success. If you've got the belief, though, that women find men hitting on them more annoying than nails against a chalk board you're in big trouble. But DON'T worry, my friend, because you're in the same position most men are.

Many a man believes women hate to be hit on - and rightfully so. If you, for example, frequent the bar or club scene you've probably overheard groups of women yapping away about how they fear and loath men hitting on them. But if this were so, women would wear shower curtains to bars and nightclubs. But they don't. They wear skimpy little outfits to maximize the amount of male attention they get.

I'm gonna return to this train of thought in a moment. But before I do, I want to shed some serious light on why believing women don't like to be hit on is akin to sentencing your penis to life in prison with no chance of parole. No hope of him ever vacationing in that warm, cuddly place he enjoys dancing into the wee hours of the morning to that old Digital Underground song "Do The Humpty Hump." The only love he's gonna get is from Bubba's nether regions.

Having this belief will cause a man to fear and loath hitting on women. He'll, for example, think to himself: "If I approach a woman she'll see me as an insidious little vermin she wants shunted from her reality."

If he does get up the gall to approach a woman, he's gonna have scrawled across his forehead in permanent red ink: "I'm so scared you'll reject me, I'm about to poop my pants." This will communicate to her, he's a consummate gimp. Women feel no attraction for gimps. They feel attraction toward men who are a Prize they've gotta win over. Okay. I think I've convinced you of how wretched this belief is. How it will pound any future opportunities with beautiful women into jelly.

But you might be having second thoughts. Maybe you're not fully convinced. So I'm gonna rewind and go back to my original train of thought: "The belief that women don't like to be hit on is crap." If this belief ever crossed paths with the Food & Drug Administration they'd stamp it with an official FDA seal saying: "100% Certified B.S."

Why do you think women spend so much time - sometimes hours - primping and preening themselves to go out to nightclubs and bars? Because they want to be hit on. There's a school of thought, though, that says: "Women don't dress up for men; they do it for other women." I think there's a grain of truth here but what this means is that women dress up to compete with other women for male attention. For male validation. In other words, one of the reasons women put time into primping and preening themselves is to compete for who gets hit on the most by men. Many a woman will never explicitly admit she enjoys men hitting on her. If she did, she'd risk other women perceiving her as being at the top of the Slut-O-Meter. Or, even worse, people thinking she's a power hungry rhymes-with-witch. Wanting to be hit on is one of women's dirty little secrets. Think of those stupid, gossip magazines - such as, Enquire and Star. Almost everyone talks about how stupid these publications are and claims to have never picked one up. This is B.S.

If most people didn't read them, their circulation wouldn't be so widespread.

The lurid reality is this: Most of us can't wait to get our dirty little paws all over these magazines while standing in line at the supermarket. A lot of us have too much pride to admit it. But almost all of us get picked up by our lapels and sucked into the contents of these papers. Same holds true with women. Most women claim, they hate when guys hit on them. But most women love it. They can't get enough of it. But they'll never admit it. It's their dirty little secret. When you make no apologies for hitting on a woman and convey the belief that by YOU hitting on her you're doing her a favor, it lets her know she's dealing with a real man who's a Prize she has to win over.If YOU believe women want and love to be hit on, you're half way to massive success with women. All you've gotta do is learn the right way to hit on women. You could go out and experiment. And if you're willing to put in a lot of work, you probably will become successful with women. But it's going to be a lot of work. Or you could take the shortcut by cracking open my brain and hijacking all of my secrets that took me years of hard work and experimenting to discover. In just a few minutes YOU could start mastering these secrets, allowing you to leap over years of hard work and start experiencing the success you want to have with women. You're still gonna have to put in some work. But truckloads less than if you didn't have these secrets. I wish I had access to this info when I was starting out. Click here to get your hands on the tools you need to start living your dream life with women.

By Swinggcat

Suggested reading (pdf e-books):

Mary Wood Allen - What A Young Woman Ought To Know
Dh Lawrence - Women In Love

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Saturday, October 8, 2005

Online Dating Made Simple

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Finding love is no more a difficult job. With internet, like everything else, you can even find your love. Internet dating is becoming increasingly popular and many people have started preferring finding matching soul mate through internet as it seems to be very simple and easy for understanding each other and sharing opinions. Online dating websites have made things so simple that you need not roam around to find the right person.

One important thing that you should remember is that you should sign up only in reputed dating website. This is because only good online dating websites would retain your profile details safe and also, reputed online dating sites would have decent people in their network that would be helpful in finding the right person for you. Checking out with friends who have already been using online dating websites would be useful as they would personally be able to tell you which dating site works to be the best. However, if you wish to try it yourself, you could certainly do that but with little extra care.

To start with, you can use pseudo names and remember not to give your correct contact details in the profile information because it could be dangerous as we may not know on who is using it. However, other details like your likes and dislikes should be genuinely given as that would help you finding a perfect match. You too can check for others’ profile and try to find the right person who closely or exactly matches your taste and mentality.

Remember that in dating websites, like you, others might have also provided information that is inaccurate. So, be cautious and very taking a relationship to the next level, talk to them well and try to share your opinion on various things. A slow and steady discussion would help you in finding the right person rather than making any hasty decision. Dating sites also offer a number of other features that could be useful for you. They have online dating options, emailing option and even webcam sessions that can be used to make the discussion more personal and effective. Many people who are new to dating sites may not have any idea about these features that dating websites offer. So, before starting your search try to go through all the features that are available in the online dating website and make the best use of it.

Just by being cautious about few things that are mentioned above, you will be able to have some good experience using online dating websites. Once you start using online dating websites, you will certainly realize on how it is better than traditional dating in which many times you do not have options to select from.

Finding the right dating site is the most important part of successful online dating makes use of the free online dating website reviews here and enjoy your online dating experience.

Suggested reading (free books):

David Deangelo - Double Your Dating Deep Inner Game
Joseph Matthews - Meeting Dating And Seducing Women
Brian Caniglia - Online Dating Secrets

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