OVERCOME THE FEAR OF REJECTION
Now let's face facts. Unless your Brad Pitt or George Clooney you will get rejected at some point when you "approach women". Accept that it's normal and happens to everyone.
REJECTION IS TEMPORARY, REGRET IS FOREVER.
I learned a valuable lesson a few months ago. I fancied a girl in my late teens, but I was too afraid of rejection to ask her out. I recently bumped into her at a party and found out that she also used to have a thing for me. I admitted to her that I used to fancy her to which she replied, 'Why didn't you do or say anything?' A question I ask myself all the time. Of course, it was now too late because she is engaged and getting married in a few weeks.
WHY WOMEN REJECT MEN
There is no point living your life thinking, will she like me? Will she like what I am wearing? What will I say to her? If you hesitate, you will miss your opportunity and continue spending lonely nights on your own.
Men fear rejection because it lowers their confidence. But there is no reason to lose any confidence when a woman says 'no' because she isn't actually rejecting you. How can she when she doesn't know anything about you? Maybe she rejected you because:
* She is already married or has a boyfriend.
* She is a lesbian.
* She is having a bad day.
* She has her protective shield up.
* She doesn't like talking to anyone.
It is important to remember that women have their own personal preferences that you might not match. Some women like dark-haired men, others like blond men. Some women like tall men, while others prefer shorter guys. The secret is to not take "rejection" personally.
You need to approach as many women as possible to increase your chances of finding one that is looking for a man like you.
PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT
The best way to gain the "confidence" to approach and talk to women is to simply do just that. Most of the fear of approaching and talking to girls comes from not doing it often enough. You may never have even done it before.
Set a target of approaching at least one attractive woman everyday for the next month. You will soon familiarise yourself with the situation of approaching women and forget what you was fearful of in the first place. If you still feel nervous, keep practicing. Even if you end up like a bundle of nerves and embarrass yourself, what's the big deal? You will probably never see her again anyway. Practice everyday and the fear of rejection will soon become a distant memory. You will realise that approaching women isn't that difficult. I always had a fear of rejection until I decided to overcome it.
HOW TO APPROACH WOMEN
Before you "approach women", make sure that you have the following grooming basics in check:
* You have clean teeth and a fresh breath.
* You're wearing a decent set of clean, ironed clothes.
* You're shoes are clean and shiny.
* You're wearing a fragrance. Read my post 10 Men's Fragrances That Attract Women.
Women will judge you on the way you present yourself. If you look scruffy, have a smelly breath and stink of body odour, then the chances that she will reject you are high. Read my post Grooming Turnoffs That Women Can't Stand.
You need to measure the probability of success by looking out for buying signals. Many men that pluck up the courage to approach women do it blindly without any observation first. Before you approach women, I recommend you observe her body language. If she is making frequent eye contact, smiles a lot, fidgets with her clothes or plays with her hair, you can be pretty certain that she isn't going to reject you straight away when you approach her.
Once you notice the buying signals, simply walk directly up to her and introduce yourself. When introducing yourself make sure you:
DONT
* Use corny pick up lines.
* Ask if she has a boyfriend.
* Compliment her looks.
Attractive women are approached by men all the time. What most men fail to realise is that most of the other guys that approached her did basically the same things.....and those things didn't work! In other words, each of the guys that approached her probably used the same corny pick up line, asked if she had a boyfriend or showered her with compliments. Approach her like this and she will think you're the same as every other guy.
Simply say, 'hi', and ask if you can join her for a drink, with total confidence. If she says yes, then ask for her name. If she is interested she will ask the same. If she doesn't ask, don't worry about it; just carry on with the conversation.
HOW TO TALK TO WOMEN
Keep the conversation interesting. Focus on her and listen to what she has to say. Men often make the mistake of talking too much about topics that bore women to tears. Just because a woman is listening to you and acts interested doesn't mean she actually is. She might just be acting polite and secretly wishing that you would go away and not come back. So try not to talk too much about yourself and listen to what she has to say.
You need to pay attention to any seeds or free information that she might throw your way. Seeds are hints that point to topics that women would like to discuss. For example, she says that she has just got back from Europe. This seed gives you the opportunity to ask her lots of questions. Where in Europe did you go? What was it like there? How long did you go for? There is no need to worry about what to say next because she is telling you what to say. All you have to do is listen out for topics she would like to discuss.
You also need to tell her something about yourself. You need to bring yourself into the conversation when you can relate to something she says. For example, she says that she misses Europe. You could say,' me too, I spent two weeks in London and loved it!' Instead of asking a question this time you have said something about yourself that makes you seem similar to her. Not only are you asking her questions and listening to her, you are also revealing information about yourself that she can relate to in a subtle way. You're not giving away too much and keeping the mystery alive which is important.
When talking to women you need to take the following into account:
DONT
* COME ACROSS AS NEEDY. Trying too hard to impress her will turn her off.
* BE BORING. She will lose interest if you ask her interview style questions and create awkward silences.
* COME ACROSS AS INSECURE. She will quickly lose attraction towards you if you seem a nervous wreck.
DO
* BRING OUT HER FUN, FLIRTY SIDE. Women want to have fun.
* BRING OUT HER EMOTIONS. Talk about her passions, vacations etc.
* BRING OUT HER SEXUAL SIDE. To create sexual attraction, don't shy away from personal and intimate topics.
You need to talk to women in a way that makes her feel attracted to you. Talk to her in a way that makes her feel so much fun and enjoyment whilst creating "sexual attraction". To talk to her in a way that creates attraction you need to:
* LEAD THE CONVERSATION. Take control of the conversation.
* TEASE HER. This makes the conversation fun and flirty.
* AVOID COMPLIMENTING TOO MUCH. This makes you come across as needy.
* DONT BORE HER. Avoid interview style questions and topics that women aren't generally interested in.
* BE FUN NOT FUNNY. Concentrate on showing her a fun time instead of your funniest jokes.
* PAY ATTENTION TO HER BODY LANGUAGE. Pay attention to what she is telling you with her body language.
* TALK ABOUT YOUR PASSIONS. Show her that you have a passion for life.
* DONT HIDE THAT YOU ARE TALKING TO HER FOR A DATE. This ensures you stay away from the friend zone.
* DONT COMPLIMENT HER BODY, EYES, OR LOOKS.
* GIVE OPINIONS. Tell her what you observe about her.
Talking to women doesn't have to be difficult. Just follow the tips above and you will have a fun, playful and sexual conversation that you will both enjoy!
CLOSE THE DEAL
When you "approach women", you don't have to have a long conversation there and then. Most men feel that when they approach a woman, they have to talk to her for a long period of time before they can get her number.
This is not the case!
After talking to her for a little while, tell her that you had better be getting back to you friends. Go to walk away, turn back and then ask for her number.
Say something like:
"I HAD A GREAT TIME TALKING WITH YOU AND I'D LIKE TO SEE YOU AGAIN. WHY DON'T YOU GIVE ME YOUR NUMBER SO THAT WE CAN DO THIS AGAIN?"
YOU'RE REALLY EASY TO TALK TO; CAN I HAVE YOUR NUMBER SO THAT WE CAN TALK AGAIN SOMETIME?"
If she says yes then enter her number into your mobile. She will be surprised as she will be used to men chatting her up all the time and constantly giving her compliments.
She will be intrigued and will want to meet up with you again.
RECOMMENDED READING
If you seriously want to learn how to attract more women, then you need to read John Alexander's How To Become An Alpha Male. I used to find it almost impossible talking to women, let alone getting dates, until I read this book. I can honestly say it increased my confidence and self-esteem instantly. It transformed my life...... Click Here To Check It Out And Date More Women!
READY TO APPROACH AND ATTRACT WOMEN?
The next time a woman says 'no', remember that it's not the end of the world. Just move onto the next woman that catches your eye. Overcome the fear of rejection, "approach women", talk to women and have fun doing it.
Remember to try out the following eBook that is GUARENTEED to help you overcome the fear of rejection and approach women:
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To Our Success In Life,
Steve Harold
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