Seduction Community Improving Your Social Skills To Get More Women

... A HUGE PART OF BEING GOOD WITH WOMEN IS BEING SOCIALLY CONFIDENT. THE TWO GO HAND-IN-HAND.

Social dud? Be a social stud--and attract women.

DEAR VIN,

EVERY TIME I GO OUT TO MEET WOMEN, I JUST GET REALLY AFRAID AND NERVOUS. IT'S LIKE I CAN'T EVEN WALK UP TO THEM AND SAY HI. I JUST FEEL LIKE NO ONE IS NOTICING ME, AND EVEN WHEN I DO START CONVERSATIONS, THEY JUST DON'T GO ANYWHERE OR IT'S REALLY AWKWARD. WHAT CAN I DO TO FIX THIS SITUATION?

STEVE FROM AUSTRALIA

Dear Steve,

Without a doubt, the most common mistake I see guys make is wanting to learn seduction before having a grasp on their basic social skills. What I mean by this is that, too often, guys tend to want to learn about attraction and picking up girls and how to get them home before they improve their-what I consider to be fundamental-people skills. And that approach is totally backward. In order to gain confidence and skills with women, you first need to have good social skills.

For guys like you Steve, my advice is to (for now) forget entirely about picking up women. Forget about trying to get them home or attracting them or even approaching them at any time or place. Before you can even think about any of that, you have to work on your fundamental social skills.

Specifically, you have to be able to start conversation, make small talk, and talk to anyone-guys, girls, attractive people, unattractive people, etc. You need to spend the next six months overcoming shyness, getting rid of social anxiety, and building up your general confidence in various social situations. Start to get rid of any feelings of being self-conscious and not knowing what to say, and start to improve at things such as your general charisma, asking good questions, and talking to groups of people. Start by approaching people in grocery stores or shopping malls-just ask general questions or for advice. Practice getting any conversation going with different people in different places. Then increase this by approaching two people at the same time, then three, etc. By slowly practicing and increasing over six months, you will feel good through the process and, in the long run, you'll get results much faster with women.

And a huge part of being good with women is being socially confident. The two go hand-in-hand. Think about it like this: If you wanted to compete in a triathlon for the first time, you wouldn't just show up on the day of the triathlon without having trained for it. If you did, you'd probably struggle like crazy, may not finish, and may not even complete it.

When it comes to being good with women, your social skills are like the important fitness training you need to compete in a triathlon, like talking to people, being able to express yourself, and being able to influence people and persuade them. Essentially, you have to train yourself to be good with women, and this starts by exercising your social skills to build them up until you're ready for the triathlon.

Recommended books (downloadable pdfs):

Kurt Mortensen - Persuasion Iq The 10 Skills You Need To Get Exactly What You Want
Alphahot1 - Seduction Trends Going After Beatiful Women
Alphahot1 - Exellence In Seduction A Communications Model

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