How To Gain Confidence With Women

Do you struggle to gain confidence with women? Have you ever been out for a drink with the lads and seen a lovely lady who you’d really like to get to know better- but been unable to summon the courage to talk to her? Or if you do manage to talk, do you stumble over conversation, feel awkward, and fail to get her number? You may have found it difficult to sustain relationships or may not even have had a proper fulfilling relationship at all. If you lack self confidence, the world can be a very lonely place.

Unfortunately, the one personality trait which women find most attractive is self confidence. Women subconsciously want a partner who they feel can protect them and who will be ‘there’ for them. Self confident men automatically give out these messages, whereas a shy, unconfident man will be sending out quite the opposite message. So, in order to improve your relationships, you are going to have to learn how to gain confidence with women.

Self confidence with women can be built up slowly. You may find it daunting to go over and talk to that attractive woman by the bar, so start to build your confidence by talking to other women in different settings. It doesn’t matter if you are not attracted to them- the point is to get you used to talking easily to women in general. Make a point of chatting to female work colleagues, start a conversation with the sales person in the store, smile and say hello a lot more often. The more you get used to approaching women and chatting, the easier you will find it.

Change your mindset. Stop worrying what others think of you or whether they think you are attractive. Look in your mirror and tell yourself that you are an attractive person who any lovely woman will find interesting. Write down an affirmation to support this belief and read it every morning and night. Study the way confident people act; look at their posture, listen to the way they talk, look at how they present themselves. Now go and copy them. Act like you feel a confident person would act and you will automatically become that confident person.

Learn to feel good about your appearance. You don’t have to look like a Greek god to attract women but you do need to feel at ease with yourself and your appearance. Decide that you are going to accept yourself just as you are and therefore so will everyone else- or make a commitment to change what you really don’t like about yourself. Lose weight and tone up a little if it will help you to feel better about yourself, or invest in new clothes that will make you feel good. Women are drawn to men who appear confident in their appearance and at ease with themselves.

Don’t overdo it. Many people make the mistake of thinking that women are attracted to cocky, arrogant men. This is not the case- men who act in this manner are actually trying to cover up low levels of self esteem, and women are not fooled. Don’t be tempted to try to act like this. Remember that a man with true self confidence does not feel the need to boast about how much money he is making or his sports car- he is fully at ease with himself and the conversation he is having. Make a commitment to work on raising your self confidence in general, try some of the tips in this article and you should soon find you are able to gain confidence with women and enter into a fulfilling relationship.

Recommended books (downloadable pdfs):

Ron Louis - How To Succeed With Women
Juggler - How To Meet And Connect With Women

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