If you want to get more dates online, or if you're just looking to learn how best to go about dating online for the first time, here are some practical internet dating tips.
1. Pick one of the best/biggest online dating agencies
Internet Dating Tips Dating online successfully is a numbers game. There's no point signing up to one of the smaller players in the market, unless you intend to sign up to one of the bigger sites too. You want your ad to be exposed to as many interested potential partners as possible, so don't get off on the wrong foot by signing up to a site that doesn't have the numbers to start with.
2. Create an excellent personals ad (the most critical of these internet dating tips)
Once you've joined a site that has a lot of potential partners the next important thing to ensure is that your ad makes the best of your attributes. That means great photographs and words that will captivate the people that read your profile and make them want to contact you. It also has a job to do to filter out the people that you don't want contacting you.
3. Women - prepare for a flood of hits
If you've done stages 1 and 2 right, it's possible that you're going to get hit on a lot buy men. How can I say this politely... you're not going to appreciate all of them. But you do have to wade through a lot of Mr. Wrong's to find your Mr. Right. If you go in with the expectation that you may get a lot of contacts, then you're less likely to be overwhelmed when it happens
4. Men - Women will get a lot more contacts than you do
That doesn't mean to say that the best way forward is to join the rest of the men and try to hit on every woman who's registered. It's still much better to pick the women you fancy, who you think will fit well with you and that you meet most of their criteria for. Then write them a brief note letting them know you'd like to chat online. If you don't get a response, just move on.
4. If it's not working for you...
Go back and check you did everything in steps 1. and 2. It's really very tempting just to bang up a profile and any old photo, even worse, no photo at all. If your photo and profile aren't up to scratch, then you aren't going to get the results you'd hoped for. Some people have a weird understanding of what makes a good photo. If you're serious about getting the partner you really want, get a professional photo taken. That way, you know your photo is up to scratch.
5. Get some more non-internet dating advice
These internet dating tips are centred around the first part of the dating process - finding potential partners. There's obviously a whole lot more to getting dates with the people you find online let alone finding suitable partners to have a relationship with. If you want some more help, make sure you pick up our free relationship advice and read the dating advice already on this site.
Online dating advice is easy to give, but I've been amazed by how quickly most people forget the basic rules. I've been giving free online dating advice because I have two objectives - to make sure you are successful with your online dating, and to make sure you stay safe.
6.Write a Profile that's the Right Length
Too short (just a few sentences) and most people will think you didn't put serious thought into it; too long, and they may not read to the end. Three paragraphs is a good length if you create an interesting snapshot of who you are. Mention some of your interests and past times. Observations such as "I'd love to travel to Europe sometime, but for now Italian restaurants give me a taste of what's to come," show that you're interesting and have a sense of humor.
7.Don't Reveal Personal Details
Never give away personal data like your last name, where you live or even where you work in your profile. It's too easy for someone to find you. While most people online are well-adjusted individuals, you can never be too careful. Until you know someone very well, don't tell them more than they need to know. This is probably the most important online dating advice and safety tip of all - meet someone for the first time in a public place. There's no leeway on this one - it provides you an "out" if you need it.
8.Posting Your Photo
And consider this online dating advice: photos are the downfall of many people. One of the most common mistakes is posting a bad photo. You don't have to have a formal portrait done, but you should make sure the photo is a clear, close-up shot without others in the picture. Don't post a photo you obviously took of yourself with your computer cam late at night. Also don't post photos where your ex was obviously cut out of the picture.
9.Please, Please don't Grovel
I've read hundreds of profiles that have phrases like, "no games - I've had enough of them," or "broken heart needs healed." This kind of stuff smacks of emotional baggage - something no one wants to start a relationship having to cope with.
10.Keep Your Initial Emails Friendly and Upbeat
No complaints about past relationships or how lonely you are. Instead, make sure the other person sees you as someone who is complete and happy already. If they understand that you want to add someone special to an already fulfilling life, they will be drawn to you as someone who can enhance their own life.
11.Be Honest about Yourself
Don't forget this important online dating advice. Fudging the facts on income, what you do for a living or what you like to do, you'll only dig yourself into a hole. At some point the truth will come out, and you'll have way too much explaining to do.
12.Be Truthful about What You're Looking For
If you want a serious relationship, be honest so that you don't get involved with someone who is only looking for something casual. You'll get hurt and have wasted your own time and theirs. The same goes for the opposite scenario - don't lead someone on if you know they're looking for true love but you just want someone to hang out with for a few months.
13.Pick Up on the Other Person's Cues
As you move on to exchanging your actual email addresses or phone numbers, be sure to pick up on the other person's cues. If he or she emails or calls and you have a great chat - wonderful! Agree at the end of the conversation when you'd like to talk again and stick with it. Don't blow them off - a sure sign you aren't reliable. On the other hand, don't call earlier or email too often - clinging like that is a definite turn-off during what should be a cautious phase.
14.Do Your Homework
There are hundreds of dating websites available, and many sites cater to specific groups. If you want a Christian-based relationship, consider a Christian online dating site. If you are looking for something that's purely physical, there are sites that focus on that as well. Don't just randomly pick a site. You may discover that it has lots of members, but not many who have anything in common with you.
Finally, don't give up. The best online dating advice I can give is to be patient and try a few different online dating services. It may take some time to find the right person, but along the way you can make some great friends and have some fun.
Recommended books (free to download):
Dating Insider - Guide To Internet DatingDavid Jones - The Art Of Internet Dating
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