Most men have no idea how to write a good profile. They write a profile from a guy's point of view. When a woman reads a profile like this, it actually does nothing to make her want to contact him.
You need to bring your dynamic personality into your Online profile. Instead of just writing "I'm an accountant and I love what I do," be more dynamic and say something like...
"I have always loved crunching numbers, but I do it creatively so no one gets in trouble with the IRS."
Online and offline are exactly the same - you need to be fun and flirtatious in both situations. You know when you ask someone what they do for a living and they answer with "I'm a lawyer" or "I'm an accountant."
Where do you go from there? If you instead answer that question by saying "I creatively massage numbers so my clients don't get in trouble with the IRS," it leads to a more engaging follow-up conversation.
When writing your profile, think about everything you're writing like a conversation. If the "conversation" you're writing would be interesting in person, then you've done a good job of profile writing.
If not... then you need to keep re-writing your profile.
Your Online dating profile is as important as putting up good pictures. Women want to be able to get excited about contacting you. If you're just throwing up some information and expecting women to respond to your profile, you will fail in Online dating.
Online dating is extremely competitive. The men who have the best profiles are the men who consistently get dates. The men who know how to write clever emails to get a woman's attention will consistently get the dates.
With that in mind, here are my six essential keys to writing a winning profile:
1. Your profile must create emotions. Instead of writing...
"I love to travel and see new places," try writing it this way: "Traveling is my passion. Whenever I take a trip to another country, I learn something new about myself and I appreciate my life even more. When I was in Thailand checking out the Buddhist temples, I was able to not only see history but feel history." What this does to a woman reading this profile, is create an emotional attachment.
When you write about your love of travel as a story, she can picture visiting Thailand or traveling with you. If you just describe something by putting it in a list, you're not going to create an emotional attachment for her.
Women are emotional beings, and they are the ones who will be reading your profile. So learn to create stories when describing your passions.
2. Don't say in your profile that "My friends say I'm a wonderful person." I've seen men do that countless times. You don't let women know you're great by telling them that your friends think you're great.
This doesn't tell a woman anything. She doesn't know who your friends are, so you are better to talk about things you love to do. This allows women who read your profile to think you're great... which is your objective.
For instance, a client of mine volunteers at a homeless shelter once a week. So in his profile he wrote "My Saturdays are my favorite day of the week. I volunteer at the local homeless shelter and spend three hours helping others feel better about themselves." Something like this shows a woman what type of person you are... and that is what she wants to see.
3. Don't tell women in your profile that you're funny - show them WHY you're funny. For instance, I live in Los Angeles and I hate the traffic there. So, in my Online profile, I wrote:
"Just when you think you've seen everything in LA, you get on the 405 and see someone driving 80 mph texting and plucking their eyebrows at the same time. Now that's something I need to learn!"
What you're doing is making fun of yourself and making a joke. As a guy, you don't pluck your eyebrows... you may text, but you don't pluck.
Women are attracted to humor. So get a woman to laugh when she reads your profile, because your profile should get her to feel like she's flirting with you in her head.
4. Never say in your Online profile how confident and successful you are. Women hate men who brag about themselves. It actually turns them OFF.
They are, however, extremely attracted to very confident men. So instead of bragging about yourself, say something like this: "I've worked really hard in my life to become who I am. Every time I've fallen down, I've dusted myself off, checked out my wounds, gotten up and tried again.
Being successful to me means having the freedom to do what I want... which of course is having time to hang out with you. By saying something like that, you're telling a woman that you're successful but humble.
You're also throwing a little bit of humor in there which also helps.
Recommended books (free to download):
The Approach - The Attraction HandbookJames Friesen - The Fine Art Of Attraction And Seduction
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