Roses On First Date

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Dating Q">I went out on a first date with this girl and bought her a bouquet of roses that I gave her at the restaurant when we met. She thanked me and said that they were beautiful, but then put them on the floor underneath the table, and even forgot them there when we left.

Does this mean she's not interested?

XANDER

Hi Xander,

Speaking as one of those rare women who doesn't like flowers, it's possible that your date just didn't appreciate the gesture. And if she doesn't like flowers, couple that with the fact that she has to lug them around with her for the rest of evening and you've got yourself an irritable woman.

It's possible she wasn't interested in the flowers, but is interested in you. A word of caution from this point on, though: don't ever buy a woman flowers on a first date.

Call her up and see her reaction; if she seems aloof and distant, she's not interested.

"COMING ON TOO STRONG

After a successful first date, I asked Joe out for the second one and made all the plans. Although I thought that taking the lead would impress him, it seems to have done the opposite and now he is kind of turned off by my "freakish controlling behavior" (is how he put it).

I just wanted to do something nice. Do guys not like it when women are assertive?

HELEN

Ah, yes, the freakish controller. Every guy is different, Helen, and this particular guy prefers to be the one taking the lead. This doesn't mean that you should change your behavior or the way you are; it just means that not every guy will find it refreshing.

Set this guy free and keep on looking; there are men out there who love the idea of getting to sit back and relax while the woman takes control.

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Recommended books (downloadable pdfs):

Anthony Berger - Seduction Illustrated
Dating Insider - Getting The First Date
Philip Redhead - Best Places For First Dates

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