Maybe you're new to the world of online dating, or you want to rejuvenate your online presence. Here are some tips to make sure that you stand out from the crowd and get what you want with your online dating profile.
ONLINE DATING PROFILE TIPS #10
BE HONEST ABOUT YOURSELF
This may sound ridiculously clear, but it's surprisingly tricky for some people to just be themselves rather than adding things that you think other people would find attractive, or things that you wish you were.
Saying that you're a big sports enthusiast when your enthusiasm is limited to a plan you have to eventually start going to the gym a few times a week is misleading, even if you feel it reflects what's going on in your mind.
Being straight up about yourself isn't just good etiquette (although it is that); if you're not being honest about who you are in your online dating profile, you're not going to be able to find someone who appreciates you for you.
ONLINE DATING PROFILE TIPS #9
POST A PICTURE
There is no reason to hold off on putting your picture up on your online dating profile. Even if you don't like having your picture taken because you're convinced that no one will want to date a person who doesn't look like they just stepped off a magazine cover, letting people know what you look like is important. (You wouldn't date someone without knowing what they looked like, would you?)
In fact, there are lots of things that people find attractive and unattractive, and by refusing to let people make that judgment, you're not being mysterious; you're just making your profile less interesting.
ONLINE DATING PROFILE TIPS #8
DONT BE A DOWNER
We've all had bad relationship experiences in the past; the kind that have us exclaiming "What the hell was I thinking?!" These are important and you don't want to end up repeating mistakes, but that doesn't mean you have to air your laundry on your online dating profile. Remember: This is all about the impression people have of you.
You know that your ex smoked too much pot and ended up spending the bill money on potato chips once too often, but putting the words "absolutely no pot smokers" on your profile doesn't tell that story. In fact, it may imply something quite different.
There are lots of things that we don't want in a partner, but connecting with someone is about finding the things that you do want. Concentrate on those.
ONLINE DATING PROFILE TIPS #7
HAVE A HEADER THAT WORKS FOR YOU
The first thing that anyone sees on your profile is your header, so don't treat it like it's just a formality. Pick something that's going to stand out. "Looking for someone special" doesn't work - and with online dating, it's kind of redundant.
Instead, try to think of a way to channel who you are into just a few words - quote a line from a favorite movie or song or make a joke, but make it count.
ONLINE DATING PROFILE TIPS #6
TELL PEOPLE WHAT YOU WANT
Yes, this is your profile, but it's also a chance to let people know what you're looking for in others. Once you're clear on what it is that you really value, state that up front, without worrying how other people will react to it.
Saying that you want something relaxed and fun when what you're really interested in is someone to walk down the aisle with is a sure path to frustration. Try sticking to what you do want as opposed to what you don't (see "Stay Positive"), but stick to it.
If you give people a clear idea of what you're looking for, it means that the responses you get are more likely to be from those who are interested in what you have to offer.
Recommended books (downloadable pdfs):
David Deangelo - Double Your Dating AffirmationsDavid Deangelo - Double Your Dating Bridges
Brian Caniglia - Online Dating Secrets
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