Talking Dirty For Women

You're probably not a porn star. You may not like watching porn. That's fair, many women don't. But guess what? Your boyfriend likes it, and watches it, probably on a regular basis.

And one of the things he likes best about it are the oral acrobatics performed by the actresses. I'm not talking about marathon oral sex here (well, I'm not only talking about marathon oral sex), I'm talking about talking dirty.

Talking dirty for women has a number of important and useful functions. It can spice up a lagging sex life, it can be a fun departure from your normally prim vocabulary, it's a chance to let loose and be a bad girl. And best of all, it'll make him harder than a dozen Viagras.

Talking dirty isn't easy for everyone, so get some tips, tricks and advice from the guide below.

Talking dirty for women common concerns

TALKING DIRTY FOR WOMEN APPREHENSION #1 IM AFRAID HELL LAUGH AT ME.

That's the main worry - but if you can pull off your not-so-sweet nothings with passion and poise, you don't have to worry about him laughing so much as exploding. If you're turned on, he will be too, and chuckling will be the last thing on his mind.

TALKING DIRTY FOR WOMEN APPREHENSION #2 IM UNCOMFORTABLE WITH SWEARING.

You can get nasty without having a potty-mouth. You can describe what's going on and what you want your man to be doing without talking like a sailor. Be more descriptive and talk about your fantasies. It is totally acceptable to refer to his penis as 'it' even when it's standing right next to you. And "do" can pretty easily be interpreted as "f*ck" when you're in the act.

TALKING DIRTY FOR WOMEN APPREHENSION #3 IM WAY TOO SHY.

You know, I was too. For years, I couldn't bring myself to utter so much as a "that's right, do me" even though I loved hearing dirty talk. Being shy is totally normal. You just need to find your inner slut. That's right, I said it, and you've got one, even if you've never let her out.

Deep inside you there's a filthy-mouthed mistress just waiting to leap into your bedroom and scorch the ears off of Mr. Fabulous. Believe in her, and she'll help you overcome your shyness. A little role playing never hurt anyone, and it can be easier to let a "character" do the dirty talking for you.

TALKING DIRTY FOR WOMEN: HOW AND WHEN

If it's not part of your normal sex-life, talking dirty is something that should be introduced after you're already sexually comfortable with your partner, maybe a few months into the relationship.

Start with a little encouragement during a good sex session and gauge his response. There's the occasional guy who doesn't like to hear nasty words coming out of his sweetie's mouth, but if he gets excited when you breathe "that's right, deeper, harder" into his ear when you're going at it, you can be fairly certain that he'll be open to more colorful language later on.

Once you've determined that you're lover won't be looking at you in horror when you start with the not-so-sweet nothings, you can start using rougher language to tell him what you want, what you like and how you like it. (See below for examples.)

Get him involved, by asking in a sultry voice "now if you could do anything to me - what would it be?" It goes both ways, and you might find it a huge turn on to hear him say dirty, filthy things to you.

Recommended books (downloadable pdfs):

Louise Andree Saulnier - The Yoni Massage For Women
Honore De Balzac - Study Of Woman
Ken Lingu - Erotic Massage For Women

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