How To Make Men Fall In Love

R DON STEELE IS THE FAMED AUTHOR OF" TO DATE YOUNG WOMEN: FOR MEN OVER 35, BODY LANGUAGE "AND" MANS GUIDE TO "AND HAS PROVIDED HIS DATING EXPERTISE IN OVER 400 RADIO INTERVIEWS. WITH A NO-NONSENSE APPROACH TO THE DATING WORLD, R DON STEELE TELLS IT LIKE IT IS AND HELPS MEN FIND THE WOMEN THEY WANT EVERY TIME.

READER QUESTION #1: HOW TO MAKE MEN FALL IN LOVE

I want to know how to make or try to convince a man to fall in love with me.

I've tried eHarmony and they don't have any matches for me. I am abstinent so I think that makes it harder to find love.

Are there any signs to look for that tell if a guy is into me?

"R DON STEELE'S ANSWER:

There are several books with almost that exact title! I suggest you read them. Then make a plan that has concrete steps and a firm schedule to accomplish the goal.

I will tell you the exact same thing I tell men who are in your situation: You have to start somewhere. When you are not dating you radiate loneliness, desperation, and horniness.

LOVE BEGINS WITH LUST

It cannot be helped because you are! Human beings need in this order: Air, water, food, sex, security, love, self actualization. You have the first three. Love begins with lust. It does not begin with romance and flowers and songs and such.

Lust becomes love across time and grand sex with fun times and good conversation. You cannot make anyone love you. Because love just happens.

Therefore, begin with the self-help books that promise you can make someone fall in love with you. Essentially they will say you have to love yourself first. That's nice generic useless but true advice.

Then they will give weight loss, dressing, where to meet, how to talk advice, and other somewhat useful advice. My version is dress well, be slim and trim, go where men are not trying to meet women and do things you enjoy doing"'ve tried eHarmony and they don't have any matches for me.

eHarmony and all the others are foolish at a minimum and frauds at the maximum. Desirable people are not on dating sites. They are out there in the real world with a life!

USE DATING SITES FOR FIRST DATES

You use dating sites to find someone to date and that's a crucial first step. And I say, so what? The goal of using the dating sites is to get yourself used to first dates, which are difficult for us all!

Twenty first dates is what I suggest to guys who are in your situation. They learn how to get ready, and show up on time, how to have a conversation and how to end the date.

I coach this way because most people who are not dating don't know how to do all that without being overly excited and terrified at the same time.

So desensitize yourself via 20 first dates. Why bother? So that when a good candidate comes along, you are not awkward, not tongue tied, not self conscious to the extreme, and all of the other disastrous problems people have when confronting Miss Right or Mr. Right!

Chemistry.com is founded on Helen Fisher's principles. I suggest beginning there. Then try all of them until you have 20 first dates. That should take less than 3 months! That's if you are serious. Which sites you use makes no difference. Get slim and trim and dress well. Learn how to date by dating" am abstinent so I think that makes it harder to find love.

See above. That makes it impossible. Love comes after lust" there any signs to look for that tell if a guy is into me?

Yes. And you know what they are if you have ever seen a chick flick", Waitress, Nights in Rodanthe, and Bridges of Madison "are a few of my favorites.

Recommended books (downloadable pdfs):

Scot Mckay - How To Meet Women On Twitter
Lou Paget - How To Be A Great Lover
Leil Lowndes - How To Make Anyone Fall In Love With You

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