Signs Youre Getting Dumped

You can be going along in your relationship without a care in the world. One day, everything is status quo. All pieces are in their rightful place. Then, suddenly, as if overnight, it hits you: your walking papers have been drawn up and are being stamped for approval.

Whether you have chosen to see them or not, the subtle signs you're getting dumped have been there for weeks. Had you thought it through, you would have known it was over when...

SIGNS YOURE GETTING DUMPED #10

A NEW OBSESSION HAS FORMED

And it's not you. In fact, it has replaced you.

Your partner suddenly doesn't have as much free time or mental space for you. This new obsession has taken over all of your partner's thoughts and most of your conversations. However, it clearly doesn't involve you, nor are you being asked to join in.

You are not invited. This is just for them and will not be shared. Ultimately, you're getting dumped and this is the first step towards their independence. The obsession, whatever it may be, is putting some distance between you. The only objective, whether consciously or not, is to push you away - so far that you never come back.

And chances are, it would be the best thing for you.

SIGNS YOURE GETTING DUMPED #9

THEY RADICALLY CHANGE THEIR APPEARANCE

It's clich'e, I know, but when your partner starts to gussy up after a long period of barely looking in the mirror, all of your hairs should stand up on the back of your neck. Take it from me; your significant other is getting ready for the prowl. And you're getting dumped.

It's pretty easy to become so relaxed in your relationship that you become plain lazy. It's hard work keeping up appearances, especially when they see so much of you - especially for women, there's so much more ground to cover. For many of us, once the line has been snagged, there seems to be no point in baiting the hook. Hair grows a little too long, legs are shaved a little less often, six-packs turn into two-packs.

So when that hook is pulled out and shined up again, keep your eyes out for your Dear John/Jane letter.

SIGNS YOURE GETTING DUMPED #8

THEY START SLEEPING AT HOME MORE REGULARLY

Without you.

Suddenly the number of sleepovers in a week dwindles, and you are spending more and more time apart. While this may make you anxious, your partner seems not to notice. When confronted, they make up excuses, claiming fatigue, stress at work, or that it's just too far when it never was before.

But, much like the newly developed obsession (see above), you're facing a not-so subtle expression of their desire to be alone. So let them be. Seems like you're getting dumped either way.

SIGNS YOURE GETTING DUMPED #7

THEY ARE INEXPLICABLY HAPPY AGAIN

After a period of fighting, disinterest, lethargy, and just plain unhappiness, is your partner suddenly happy again? Have you bared witness to unexplainable bouts of whistling, singing, humming?

Is your partner unable to offer a logical excuse for the sudden emotional-180?

If you are suspicious of your significant other's happiness, if you can't find a single change in your relationship to explain it, warning sirens should be going off in your baffled head that you're getting dumped.

While you might want to believe it has something to do with you, there are really only two explanations for the sudden elation: first, your partner's mind is made up, the big decision has been made and you're getting dumped, and, although the difficult conversation still lies ahead, the real stress of the situation is over for them. Second, they've met someone else who has put that stupid grin on their face.

If the only change you feel in your relationship doesn't involve you, it's time to hit the door (not literally; I just mean, walk through it).

SIGNS YOURE GETTING DUMPED #6

THERE IS A GENERAL INDIFFERENCE

Your significant other used to want to be a part of all the different parts of your life, from work to friends. They showed a vested interest, asked questions, seemed to care. Now, they can barely muster up a question. When you run through the day's happenings, they stare with glazed eyes into the distance.

Increasingly, you're spending less time together. The solo-time/together-time ratio is quickly shifting. And, although you're upset about it, your partner seems to welcome the time apart.

If you are dating someone who is generally disinterested and indifferent towards your life, you are dating someone who has one foot firmly out the door. Sadly, it is only a matter of time before the second foot follows.

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David Deangelo - Double Your Dating Bridges
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