What To Do And Say On A Date

You've landed a date. The two of you met seconds ago and are going to grab a coffee and walk through the park on your first date. A mixture of fear and excitement has begun to pump through your veins. You don't want to mess it up. And you won't - if you remember the skills you used to get the date.

The fact you're on a date should change nothing. You should still be intriguing, elusive and challenging. You should still take every opportunity to playfully tease them to build sexual tension. The date should feel like a continuation from when you first met. The air still thick with excitement and anticipation.

Successful daters focus on being fun, not on being perfect. There is no way to pre-plan the entire date. So don't bother trying. And there's no point in trying to be even cooler because you've already impressed them enough to land a date. Use the date to have some fun and get to know them better.

The goal of the date is to give them a reason to agree to see you again. The All-Star advice below will help you do exactly that, by putting your best foot forward, avoiding all the major date mistakes, and providing your date with some excitement and unforgettable interactions.

ON DATE ACTIONS

Stay calm cool and confident

If you stay cool, calm and confident - they will too. Nervous is contagious. It can lead the awkward, guarded conversations that go nowhere. Staying cool, calm and confident will allow them to open up and be themselves. This leads to more genuine interactions and more powerful personal connections.

Eyes on the prize

Be sure to keep solid eye contact throughout the date. Try to look your date in the eye between 70 to 80% of the conversation. Great eye contact shows them you are actually interested in what they have to say. A key, if you're going to get another date. People regard those with strong eye contact as more confident, truthful and trusting than those with poor eye contact.

Eye contact in motion

Look your date in the eye whenever possible when in conversation. If you're out for a walk, continually turn your neck to face them. If they say something surprising, pause, and turn to face them. Make it appear as natural as possible, but make a real attempt to hold eye contact whenever possible. It will strengthen your interactions.

Smile

Show your date your smile. A smile projects a positive attitude, confidence and a playful manner. Smiles are infectious. They make you feel good and make it hard not to smile back. They make you look more attractive, engaging and friendly. Effective daters always show off their smile.

A helping hand

Offer your hand and lead them across the sidewalk or through a crowd. Put your hand in the small of their back and lead them out the door. Place your hand on their shoulder and steer them in the right direction. These simple gestures get them used to your touch and teach them to be physically comfortable around you.

Playful teasing

What worked in grade school still works today. People love playful teasing. It's exciting. It's challenging. It leads to laughter, creates comfort and builds a bond between you. Verbal sparring is a powerful and pressure-free form of flirting. It's also one of the quickest ways to build sexual tension.

Playful accusations

Playfully accuse your date of hitting on you or trying to seduce you - when they're not. Couple this with a flirty smile and they can't help but thinking of doing exactly that. Tell them they're being too sexual and messing up their chances with you - if they're being standoffish. This is a powerful way of getting them to loosen them up while putting ideas in their head.

Recommended books (downloadable pdfs):

Tyler Durden - Plant And Stare Opener
Don Diebel - How To Talk To Single Women When On A Date
Cucan Pemo - What Does Your Man Really Want

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