7 Attraction Switches To Turn Her On

"by Neil Strauss"

Many discussions with colleagues on the SWITCHES that must be flipped in a woman in order for her to feel attraction resulted in a really long list. From it, I boiled it down to just a few main switches.

There is no order to them. They should just each be consciously flipped at some point. I'd love to hear thoughts and contributions:

1. YOU MUST SHOW HER THAT YOU'RE SAFE. Trust is an important issue for most women. This must be demonstrated. So switch #1: in order to proceed, you need SAFETY and TRUST.

2. YOU MUST SHOW HER THAT YOU HAVE EITHER JOB SECURITY, MOTIVATION, OR AMBITION. In other words, you must have a life and goals. So switch #2 is demonstrating to her that you have STABILITY and AMBITION. You don't have to be successful, you just have to show the potential to be successful.

3. YOU MUST SHOW HER THAT YOU'RE DIFFERENT THAN THE OTHER GUYS, that you are not generic or boring, that she can learn something from you or grow with you, that you have a sense of adventure or creativity or spirituality. So switch #3 is showing her that you have something to offer, even if you don't give it to her in the moment. This is where DHVs are useful.

4. YOU MUST BE THE PRIZE OF THE ROOM. She wants a guy others will envy her for, that she can brag about to her friends.

This is where social proof comes in, where story- telling comes in. It's also where alpha qualities come in, and not supplicating. So switch #4 is demonstrating all of the many qualities of:

CONFIDENCE, LEADERSHIP, AUTHORITY, AND POPULARITY

5. IT'S A BIG WORLD AND WE ALL FEEL ALONE IN IT, so if you can demonstrate that you UNDERSTAND her and where she comes from, she will feel chemistry.

This can largely be done through demonstrating either cultural, mental, emotional, world view, humor, or life/background commonalities. The more obscure and rare a trait that you connect on,the more chemistry you create. So Switch #5 is demonstrating COMMONALITIES in order to trigger CHEMISTRY.

6. YOU NEED AN AURA OF DEPTH AND MYSTERY. You must maybe show a vulnerable or wounded side of yourself, you must not give away everything for free, you must be a puzzle she wants to figure out and maybe even have a wound she can heal. Switch #6 then is hooking her with your DEPTH and MYSTERY.

7. YOU MUST SHOW HER THAT YOU ARE NOT HORNY, BUT SEXUAL. This is where social proof comes in too, also demonstrating an understanding of her world (liking her for who SHE is). So switch #7 is demonstrating your own LACK OF DESPERATION while showing her that you recognize something SPECIAL in her that attracts you to her. This is where QUALIFYING is useful, in other words demonstrating that you like her for who she is- even if you are a player.

Be careful with such power. If you can flip these, she's going to be really into you.

Recommended books (downloadable pdfs):

Maurice Alpheus Bigelow - Sex Education A Series Of Lectures
David Deangelo - Attraction And How To Create It

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