Building Self Confidence With Positive Self Talk

One important way of building self confidence is to learn the art of positive thinking. This includes both positive self thought and positive self talk. If you are always thinking negative thoughts about yourself or putting yourself down in everyday conversation then other people will naturally start to put you down as well. Even worse, your subconscious mind will start to believe the negative thoughts and talk it hears, and this then becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.

Negative self talk occurs mainly when we put ourselves down in conversation. We are all guilty of this to some extent, and often it can become such a habit that we are unaware of it- unfortunately are sub conscious is very much aware! Listen to yourself in conversation and you will probably hear yourself say things such as ‘I’ll never get the hang of this’, ‘I’m useless at spelling’ or ‘you know what I’m like… I’m hopeless!’ This is negative self talk in action and it can be incredibly damaging to our self confidence levels. We start to believe that we really are useless, or hopeless and our behavior will change to ensure that we continue to spell poorly or whatever. Of course, this will then damage our self confidence levels even further!

Negative self thinking is just as damaging. If you are constantly thinking things such as ‘I’ll never be rich’, or ‘I just can’t lose weight’ then your sub conscious will cause you to behave in ways which will keep you poor or overweight. You will naturally start to sabotage your efforts by spending money you can’t afford or eating unhealthy foods.

The trick is to learn to identify negative self talk or self thought. Make a conscious effort to listen for any negative self talk during your conversations- if you hear any, stop immediately. Instead, talk positively about the things that are going well in your life. If you are paid a compliment, accept it without trying to downplay it or deny it. Similarly, if you find yourself thinking negative thoughts about yourself, stop and immediately think of something positive instead. For instance, if you find yourself thinking ‘I’ll never lose weight’, stop and think ‘I can and will lose weight’. Smile and feel good about yourself and you ability to lose the weight and imagine yourself at your ideal weight. This takes a little practice at first, and may feel a little weird, but you will soon start building self confidence and feeling better about yourself.

Also read this ebooks:

Dr Robert Antony - Total Self Confidence
Steve Scott - Supreme Confidence With Women

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