However, this dynamic began to skew with the sexual revolution of the '60s, evidenced famously in pop culture by Mrs. Robinson in The Graduate. Gradually, cinema followed with other examples: Harold and Maude, How Stella Got Her Groove Back, Y tu mama tambien, Notes on a Scandal, Sex and the City. Mainstream culture caught on and suddenly it became so hip for women to take younger guys that teachers everywhere began sleeping with their students (something AskMen.com does not condone, but, c’mon, it is kind of awesome). The term "cougar," sadly, has entered everyday vernacular and now there’s even a Courtney Cox sitcom called Cougar Town on ABC. Now you know the idea has been beaten to death if ABC is jumping on board.
Nowadays, the question is not whether dating an older women is appropriate, fun or sexy. The real question has become whether this is a passing fancy, or will it surpass the ancient dynamic of older man/younger woman? Here we answer, definitively, which is better. We consider younger women to be between 18 and 25 years old. Older women are 33 to 45. Anything younger is illegal and any older is like doing your mom.
Should you date an older or younger woman? We have six criteria for you to consider.
Body
Let’s state the obvious, younger women tend to have better bodies. Their metabolisms are still high, no stress lines have set in, and their skin is full of collagen and elasticity. However, let’s not completely rule out older women here. They have their own bank accounts with which they can pay for personal trainers and Botox. Many men still sneer at the idea of any cosmetic surgery, but we’re entering a time when people can maintain their looks, not change them. Most women won’t turn into Joan Rivers. However, a young girl can pound beers and grab late-night nachos with you and not wear it on her ass the next day.
Winner: Younger women (due to late-night nacho clause)
Sex
The knee-jerk reaction here is to think college co-eds juxtapose sorority girls in porn flicks. That’s not the case. The truth of the matter is most younger women don’t have much experience. "The virgin" sounds great until you realize how awkward and nervous she becomes between the sheets. How many guys at 30 just want to make out for hours? Sure, younger women tend to have more energy than their older counterparts and there is something fun about being the person that teaches them new positions. For years, she’ll think you’re better in bed than you actually are just because she lacks comparison. However, older women know what they want; they’re more confident and more likely to get freaky. Hell, she’ll buy you a drink and she’ll expect something in return.
Winner: Older women
Don't go anywhere, there's still more to consider when wrestling with the question: Should you date an older or younger woman?
Income
Younger women don’t have a lot of options for work at their age. Most are in college, working in the service industry or just starting their entry-level position. Strippers have cash, but that’s a whole other problem. As a man, you should pay for date night, but you don’t want her hitting you up when she misses rent. If she bartends, do you want to be the guy on the end of the bar every night waiting for her? Young 20-something’s aren’t going to be familiar with your strife to become middle management. Older women will appreciate talks about career highs and lows. Plus, she’ll be more likely to pick up a few tabs, for women’s equality sake, and will surprise you with great gifts. She’s definitely had her share of boyfriends, so she knows men prefer a new iPhone over a mix CD.
Winner: Older women
Relationship baggage
Any woman in her 30s or above has been treated poorly by a number of men. Unfortunately, that means you have to answer for all that mistreatment, and prove you’re not an asshole like the others, plus live up to the high water mark of being her last good boyfriend. That’s a lot of pressure. Younger women are blank slates. All you have to do is prove you’re better than her high school boyfriend. Easy, you drive a car worth more than $12,000. Older women are thinking serious commitments and babies. Younger women are in the moment. Just don’t get too hung up on the youthful ones, she’ll drop everything and follow her yoga instructor to Belize tomorrow.
Winner: Younger women
Discovery factor
Inevitably, the first question that guys ask after you tell them you’re dating a woman 10 years younger is: “What the hell are you going to talk about?” With the internet and availability of information, the pop culture divide is not what it used to be. It’s easier for older people to stay current on music, fashion and trends, but younger women live to stay current on popular culture. She’ll update your clothes, music and lingo quicker than 50 Google searches. Also, her events calendar will likely be packed with fun things to do, which keeps the relationship fresh. DVDs of Lost are fun sometimes, but not all the time.
Winner: Younger women
Power balance
This category isn’t even close. Younger women will look up to you and you’ll be the boss in the relationship. A number of older women who are still single are career oriented. They are used to being the boss at work and her brain is set to her ways. The brain of a young woman is like a sponge and you can pretty much squeeze whatever you want into it.
Winner: Younger women
and the winner is... Sorry older women. You’ve come very far in the last 10 years, but younger women are still beating you right now. Be happy you’ve made such strides, and in another 10 years it may be even closer yet. Guys, don’t count the older women out. They can obviously teach you some important things -- just don’t come whining to us when they boss you around.
Suggested reading (pdf e-books):
David Deangelo - Double Your Dating Deep Inner GameDavid Deangelo - Double Your Dating Advanced Series Notes Summary
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