Star Gazing And Parting Shots On Date

Ask amazing questions:

Everyone asks questions. But few people ask really good, well-thought-out questions. Great questions allow you to have conversations they'll never forget. So push past normal conversation limits. Show genuine interest in them by not being afraid to dive deep into their answers with amazing questions.

Star gazing:

A person's favorite topic is themselves. It doesn't matter if they're a powerful CEO or an Ordinary Joe, everyone has a story. Telling these stories allows people to feel like their life matters, their opinions are valuable and that they're special. Use the conversation to illuminate all the things that make them amazing. If they feel like a star talking to you, they'll find you more attractive.

Be a sexual being:

We are all sexual creatures. It's important people see you as one. Make solid eye contact and flirt to ensure you don't land in the 'let's just be friends zone' later on. If you try to be non-sexual to avoid being seen as a threat, you're not going to be seen as potential dating material either. Have other singles see you in a sexy, playful and flirtatious way.

Build sexual tension:

Talk to, tease and titillate their sexual inhibitions. It is important singles see you as a potential sexual partner without either of you talking about sex. Sexual tension is heightened through flirtatious touch, voice tones, eye contact, facial expressions and body language. Done properly, it can fill a non-sexual conversation with sexual overtones.

Speak up:

Have your voice heard. Most singles talk too softly when out on a date. It doesn't matter what you're saying if your date can't hear it. Be confident enough in your words to yell them over the roar of the stereo or crowd. Impress other singles with your boldness and vocal capacity.

Taboo topics:

There are four conversation killers that can destroy a great chat in seconds: sex, the ex, money and politics/religion. Each should be avoided because just mentioning one of these taboo topics can be enough to leave a bad first impression. So steer the conversation away from these icebergs or risk sinking your chance of landing another date.

Conversation pet peeves:

Men, no sports talk at the table. Women, no talking about the dream you had last night. Both of these topics top the conversation complaint list from the opposite sex. Most women don't care that Jeter's competing for the battling title. Most men don't want to hear about or analyze your latest dream. Talking about either will bore your date to tears.

Tell stories that showcase strengths
Put your best foot forward without bragging. Tell stories that showcase positive experiences and traits. Share stories about how much you enjoyed swimming with dolphins in Mexico, coaching youth basketball at the YMCA or hiding mini-eggs and chocolates for your cousins at Easter. Don't share embarrassing or self-deprecating stories early on. Hide your shame until later.

PARTING SHOTS

Immediately confirm a second date:

By the end of the date, it should be clear whether or not the two of you would like to see each other again. If things went well, tell them you had a great time and would like to meet again. If they agree, suggest an activity, day and time. To improve your chances, suggest an activity that came up in conversation (a love of the beach). Use their passions to your advantage.

Gentle letdown:

If the date did not go well, give them a gentle letdown. Tell them it was nice to meet them and that you'll probably see them around. Don't commit to another date or a call you never intend to make. You don't want to be too harsh, but you don't them waiting by the phone wondering why you're not calling either.

Singles should know, "I'll give you a call sometime," means you're likely never going to hear from that person again. Unless a specific activity and day were discussed - odds are they're not going to call. "I'll give you a call sometime," is the dating world's most polite and common letdown.

Recommended books (free to download):

Quinn Hicks - 20 Tips For Finding And Dating The Man Of Your Dreams
Ken Lingu - Giving And Receiving Erotic Massage
Scott Peck - Dating And Falling In Love

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