The Myth Of Dating

I don't date anymore... I gave up. The very word "date" makes me cringe.

Here's why...

I finally realized, after literally hundreds of failed dates, what women really want when they go on a "date" with a guy.

And it's not what most guys think - in fact, they don't even want a "date."

Now of course, women say all kinds of things about what they want...and then when the guy tries to give it to her, it falls flat.

You see, women are extremely unaware of their own inner processes - you can't listen to them literally.

When women say they want something, I usually laugh, because it usually sounds so ridiculous to me now.

First of all, women will say they want a nice guy, but only fall for loser jerks.

Or they'll say they want to be respected and treated like a lady, but can only have an orgasm when they are manhandled and bent over.

Or they'll say they want to be taken out and wined and dined, when nothing could be further from the truth.

Let me ask you a question.

How many times have you been confused by what women say they want, compared to what they respond to?

For me it's been A LOT.

In fact, I attribute most of my early struggles to confusion, created by women!

That's why I stopped listening to women for awhile, and decided to figure it out on my own.

Now when women say things like "I want to be swept off my feet" or "I want a man who knows what he wants" I UNDERSTAND.

But it's still funny, because I know that...

a) she doesn't know what she means
b) she thinks she's helping, but really she's only confusing guys

Now that I think about it, if women could clearly explain what they need, I'd be out of a job!

So I guess I can't be mad about it :)

And hey, if I wasn't so ignorant to begin with, I wouldn't have had the motivation to become a master.

I mean let's face it...I know a LOT more than the average guy.

In fact, so do you, just from reading these articless.

For instance, the average guy thinks that the way to take a woman out on a date is by spending a lot of money and impressing her.

This SUCKS for guys...for two reasons.

First, you are spending your hard-earned money on a woman who hasn't done anything for you yet!

Second, you are setting a bad precedence where you make effort in exchange for sex.

Bad, bad, bad.

The irony here is that women are MORE likely to have sex with you, the less money you spend - but it's all about how you do it.

Also, women can tell when you are trying to impress them.

It's OBVIOUS.

I mean think about it - can't you tell when a guy is trying to impress you?

Of course - it's easy.

And as a guy, you might think, "oh that's OK - it just means he likes me and respects my opinion."

You might end up being friends with the guy.

But to a woman, a man trying to impress her is about the most unattractive, repulsive thing he can do.

And yet what does every guy try to do?

Impress women!

Society - the media especially, sends us the message that the way to attract a woman is by showering her with praise and trying to make her like you by impressing her.

It just doesn't work that way.

Look deeper...

You can't value a person if they value you more.

Think about it - if someone sees you as higher than themselves, you won't feel the urge to keep them in your life.

You'll treat them as lower than you - and it's all because they've treated you as higher.

They did it to themselves.

And this is exactly what guys do, which is why it can seem so difficult just to attract and sleep with women!

A woman CANNOT feel attracted to a man who sees himself as lower than her.

Why would a woman want to sleep with a guy who was doing worse than her?

Sympathy? Kindness? C'mon...she's risking pregnancy, biologically speaking.

She needs to feel like she's getting good genes - that she's moving up the ladder so to speak.

Now you can understand this rationally when I say it to you.

But you have old habits that have become ingrained into you..

WBR, Dating expert Vin DiCarlo

Recommended books (free to download):

Carlos Xuma - The Art Of Attraction
David Jones - The Art Of Internet Dating
Alex Benzer - The Tao Of Dating

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