Why Men Fail In Bars And Clubs

Ah, Bars and Clubs...

The two places where more hot women hang out than any other - but also where their defenses are on "Ultra High Alert" and where there's always a healthy dose of competition from OTHER MEN.

If you don't know what you're doing, you will have NO SUCCESS... but if you can figure out "the game" in these places, you'll meet more women in 2 hours than you normally do in a week.

In fact, when you learn how to meet women successfully in bars and clubs, the "real world" becomes almost unbelievably easy.

So - what do most guys do when trying to meet women in a bar or nightclub?

The sad truth is that most guys don't approach women AT ALL.

Here's what they do instead:

- Stare at her from afar, imagining something happening between them, but never actually doing anything

- Linger around the area she's hanging out in, hoping that he'll bump into her and she'll be forced to talk to him

- Think up reasons NOT to approach

The biggest mistake here is thinking "something is going to happen without me actually DOING anything."

That's the first big reason men fail in bars and clubs - and it's a pretty obvious one... but the second reason one isn't so obvious...

"Thinking You're Original, When You're Not..."

The second big reason men fail is thinking what they are doing is original, when in reality the woman you're talking to has seen it dozens of times before - and probably dozens of times THAT SAME NIGHT.

Let me give you a glimpse into a typical night out in the life of an attractive woman...

She shows up at the club, and guys whistle and yell at her as she walks past the line.

The bouncer lets her in without waiting.

Throughout the night, 5 guys offer to buy her a drink.

10 guys stare at her from afar - and 1 follows her around the club.

3 guys ask her what time it is.

2 guys tell her she's the best looking girl in the club.

2 guys take a picture with her.

4 guys come up to her and her friends and say "How are you ladies doing tonight?"

7 guys try to dance with her, most by creeping up behind her and trying to rub their crotches against her ass...

Over time, women come to see these routine things as "warning signs."

As soon as a guy does any of these typical things, she IMMEDIATELY puts up her defenses and "decides" she's not interested.

"The Answer Is To Learn To Be "Naturally Cool"..."

My goal was always to become as good as the guys I knew who "naturally" attracted women. It seemed that they did little or no work, yet they always had more women than they could handle.

I made it my goal to track down and watch as many of these guys as possible, and figured out exactly what they do differently from us "regular" guys.

When I was first starting out, I tried to find out all of the lines and techniques they used to get so many women in bars and clubs.

I discovered that by using lines and techniques - along with getting my style together and taking care of the "basics" - I could achieve only MARGINAL success.

It wasn't until I internalized the BELIEFS and ATTITUDES that were behind the techniques that I achieved MASSIVE and CONSISTENT success.

Once you have the framework down, you won't need to memorize lines or techniques - because you'll be able to come up with them at will.

I'm about to share with you the attitudes of the naturals, the differences in the way they think, and the real reasons why they have such an easy time meeting women in bars and clubs.

"The Concept Of Cool"

A major realization I had while watching my friends who were naturally good with women was that they had a "cool" vibe that women would instantly pick up on.

I noticed that when they met women, they would always have the attitude that the women were LUCKY to be talking to them. It was as if they subtly said "Do you KNOW who I am?" without actually saying it, and without coming off as arrogant.

After watching enough of these guys, I came to realize that learning to be naturally cool might be the most important thing you can do to attract women.

I know many cool guys who don't have it all together, yet they always have women. I also know a lot of "not-cool" guys who are very successful in all areas of their lives - with the EXCEPTION of women and dating.

The trick is to learn and internalize the universal traits of "naturally cool" guys.

Here's a PARTIAL list of these powerful traits - pay careful attention to each one:

- The naturally cool guy doesn't care what people think about him.

A cool guy never places excessive meaning on any one interaction. He knows he can't please everyone, and he is totally OK with it.

- His respect and friendship must be EARNED.

To gain his respect, you have to either be a friend of a friend, or show him that you are also cool. This holds true for both the men and women they meet. They give no "bonus points" for status, looks, or material possessions.

- He is open and honest, and never afraid to state his opinion.

A cool, confident guy doesn't beat around the bush. He'll always say what's on his mind because he knows that people value what he has to say, and he's not afraid to piss someone off.

-He is decisive.

If you ask him if he wants to go somewhere, he won't say "I don't know" or "what do you want to do?" He'll tell you yes or no, whether he thinks it's what you want to hear or not.

-He is confident in his decisions

If you tell him his shirt is ugly, he'll tell you that you have horrible taste in clothing

- What he is doing is always the best thing going.

If a woman is talking to him about the great time she had on Saturday night, you'll never hear him say, "I wish I would have been there." He knows that whatever he was doing was either more fun or more important.

-He is always the best thing going.

If a woman talks about another guy, he will always have the subtle undertone that she would have a much better time with him.

- Women never come first in his life.

He always has a purpose or a priority that is more important to him than SHE is, and no woman will ever control him.

By David DeAngelo

Also read this ebooks:

Various Authors - Mental Defectives And Sexual Offenders
Leil Lowndes - How To Make Anyone Fall In Love With You

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