Signs Youve Been Single Too Long

Whether it's been weeks, months, or, dare I say, years, there comes a point when you need to face facts: you've been single too long. Being single can be really great. It gives you the time to catch up with the rest your life, concentrate on your career, hang out with the boys, and, hopefully, get to know yourself better.

It's the perfect opportunity to assess past relationships, figure out what it is that you want and don't want, and prepare yourself for when she finally walks into your life.

But the day you see a yeti staring back at you in the mirror, you can say with almost perfect certainty that, yup, you've been single too long. You can stop the downward spiral before it gets that dire; you just need to ask yourself a few honest questions.

SIGNS YOUVE BEEN SINGLE TOO LONG #1

DO YOU WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH YOUR EX?

Maybe it's the extra beer you just drank. Maybe it's the romantic Hugh Grant movie on late-night that you swore you would never watch. Maybe it's the fact that you're sitting in your living room alone... again.

Admit it. You've been thinking about sleeping with your ex. Not in a fantasy, remembering the good times sort of way; but in a what-if, one hesitation away from hitting "send" sort of way.

Take my advice: keep your finger off the button. This isn't the "I drunkenly slept with my best friend's ex" kind of trouble. This is impending doom. It will only end in a blazing ball of fire. Going back for a second round will only serve to highlight your original problems. Once the post-sex afterglow has worn off, you'll be right back in it. It's inevitable.

When these moments hit, do whatever you can to distract yourself. Go for a bike ride until your legs are going to fall off. Meet up with friends for a beer. Take your mother out for dinner. Whatever you decide, it's imperative that you leave your phone at home. Shut it off and walk away.

SIGNS YOUVE BEEN SINGLE TOO LONG #2

ARE YOU SLEEPING WITH WILDLY INAPPROPRIATE WOMEN?

Let's be honest; you've probably always thought about sex with inappropriate women. But are you now acting on it? Have you woken up next to your buddy's baby sister, your mother's friend, the older lady from the grocery store? Has your personal age of consent dropped frighteningly low?

It's official. You've been single too long. First things first: whatever you do, either don't do her, stop doing her, or don't do her again. You've caused enough damage. There's no need to wreak more havoc on her ego and your reputation.

Now, take a good hard look at the situation and realize that it's inappropriate for a reason. People are already starting to talk. You don't need to be known as that guy. There's no way back from being "him". Take a breather and keep it in your pants.

SIGNS YOUVE BEEN SINGLE TOO LONG #3

ARE YOUR STANDARDS STEADILY SLOPING?

When once there was a day that you wouldn't look twice at a 5, do you now find yourself chatting up a 3? Are you now willing to put up with things that were once serious deal-breakers? Do you look across the restaurant table and wonder what the hell you're doing here?

That's desperation setting in, a real red flag that you've been single too long. Once this realization has hit you in all its glory, now is a good time to assess your love life.

Take stock of what you want, what you can't live without, and what you absolutely cannot live with. It's tough, but don't let go of that list. When it comes to what you want, compromise can be a very slippery, very steep slope.

SIGNS YOUVE BEEN SINGLE TOO LONG #4

IS YOUR PHONES WALLPAPER YOUR DOG?

Pull your phone out of your pocket. Be honest. Are your doggy's brown eyes staring back at you? Last night, did you find yourself telling your friends about the cute thing she did the other day? Do you feel a little chagrined when you wake up to find she's not asleep at your feet?

After being single for a good period, it's nice to come home to a little pet love and affection. But when you start obsessing, going 10 blocks out of your way to the butc her, you've been single for too long. Clearly, you've been single too long. You need to start getting out there again, find someone to bestow that pent up affection on.

SIGNS YOUVE BEEN SINGLE TOO LONG #5

HAS YOUR HOBBY TAKEN OVER YOUR LIFE?

Hobbies are great. A diversified life, curious-mind, and healthy taste for adventure are huge turn ons. No woman wants a man who is afraid to take a chance. But, if your new hobby is about to bankrupt you, and yet you still can't stop, perhaps it's time to take a break. You need to step back and reassess.

Once again, you've found a replacement for a real-live girl on which to devote all your time and attention. Maybe it's just laziness, maybe it's fear of being hurt again; whatever your reason, it's time to stop distracting yourself.

Face whatever it is that has been stopping you. If you're not ready to give up your obsession quite yet, use your present love to find your future love.

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Keanu Jagger - Situational Opener Technology
Dr Robert Lind - It Is Your Choice Decision Making And Goal Setting
Jennifer Smith - Why I Love Men Dating Playbook For Women

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