New Relationship Topics To Avoid

Ahh, the blissful honeymoon phase of a new relationship. The tingles in your tummy as you think of your next date. Your faint blush as you remember the pretty complement you received on the last one. The singing in the shower. The rose-colored glasses making everything in your life seem just a little bit nicer.

You do not want to screw this up. So don't do so by starting a conversation that could end in fighting, tears, recriminations or, worst of all, extended awkward silences.

Read on to find the top 10 worst things to talk about too soon:

NEW RELATIONSHIP TOPICS TO AVOID #10

HOW MUCH YOU HATE ANYTHING

You'll just be showing off how negatively you see the world. Negativity is a turn off, much like bad breath and ugly sweater-vests. No one ever wants to spend an entire evening listening to their dinner partner sound off about how they get no appreciation, live in the worst part of town, or just can't get through to their mother. Avoid this. A few light-hearted, maybe deprecating comments here and there don't hurt, but let's not rant. Okay?

INSTEAD: Talk about some of the challenges you've had at work, home or with the family - and how they ended well for you. Or at least some funny stories that make good anecdotes!

NEW RELATIONSHIP TOPICS TO AVOID #9

RELIGION, POLITICS, LIFESTYLE CHOICE

These things are all very important to discuss in a relationship. You'll want to be with someone whose views you can at least respect, right? Of course. But the first few weeks of dating are for feeling out your new partner, and determining if they'll be open to your viewpoint.

Don't wait too long to find out if your date is a Scientologist, but approach the subject carefully and with tact. Even if it doesn't work out - you never know if this person will pop up again in your life, and you don't want to go down as the guy who dissed her religion.

INSTEAD: Talk about food, music, books, movies, and local happenings. You're just getting to know them after all - and it's nice to have some of the above in common, too.

NEW RELATIONSHIP TOPICS TO AVOID #8

YOUR TERRIBLE PAST

We've all screwed up. That's a given. But why don't you give your new gentleman or lady a chance to get to know the "you" that you are now, instead of the brain-dead, drug-muleing, gang-indoctrinated 23-year-old you were?

Again - you'll want to bring this up before things get too serious - full disclosure and all, but give yourself a fighting chance. Some potential mates will be open-minded about this sort of thing from the get-go. Others won't. Remember: you're still in the fact-finding stage of your relationship.

INSTEAD: Tell some good tales about college hijinks, or that one time you thought you'd successfully snuck out of your bedroom window.

NEW RELATIONSHIP TOPICS TO AVOID #7

NON-THREATENING MEDICAL CONDITIONS

Your potential new mate doesn't need to know what brand of hemorrhoid cream you use. Nor do they require the intimate details of your toenail fungus. Ditto for your chronic ingrown hairs. Let's try to keep the magic alive, at least for a few weeks, okay people?

INSTEAD: Talk about some cool new medical advance you've read about. A cure for peanut allergies? Good topic. You're friend who's in Doctor's Without Borders? Great topic. (Disclaimer - if your relationship is sexual at this point, you are morally bound to disclose any and all STIs. No excuses.)

NEW RELATIONSHIP TOPICS TO AVOID #6

YOUR FINANCIAL WOES

This may seem shallow, but there's some good, solid reasoning behind it. Most people have a fair amount of trouble and stress in their day-to-day lives, and they are not looking to take on any extra by dating.

Complaining about how you never have enough money to do anything will either send your partner running for the hills - or give them the idea that they're going to have to take on the full financial burden of your relationship.

Besides, if you're having trouble making your rent or mortgage payment - are you really even in a position to be dating?

INSTEAD: Talk about your plans and dreams for the future. Someday you'll have a chalet in France, or your own island. You're partner can get in on the day-dreaming too!

Recommended books (downloadable pdfs):

Derren Brown - Mind Reading Tricks Volume 1
Susan Gillpatrick - Common Relationship Mistakes And How To Fix Them

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