Online Dating How To Ruin First Date

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It's amazing how often I see women make mistakes that can kill a date before it even gets started. You are out to have a good time and you want to be yourself, but there is some information you just want to save for later on.

I have been on hundreds of first dates and there are a few things that a woman can do to kill my attraction for her instantly. It's true that men are visual, but having nice looks just gets you a first date, if you do something weird you can ensure that there is never a second date.

HOW MANY EXES?

One of the biggest mistakes women do on a first date is talk about an ex. I have seen the entire spectrum of women who do this and it's NEVER a good idea. I have been on dates where women talk about how their last boyfriend was abusive and now he's in jail, how they have had sex with over 100 men and the last one was just a few hours ago, how they are still in love with their ex, how a certain ex was the best lover ever, how her last boyfriend was the one but just didn't realize he should marry her. I could go on and on. I have seen it dozens of times and every time I without exception I think about how inappropriate it is.

Even if I tell a woman that it's not ok to talk about her exes, usually she won't stop. Because she has made it a part of her character.

I can usually tell a lot about someone based on the stories they tell in conversation. Younger women often only have stories about their parents or siblings. A little later in life, women have stories about their friends. Before long, some only have stories about their exes.

If a woman only has stories about her exes this tells me several things about her. She is perpetually in relationships and that is a big red flag for me. I want to be with a woman who is complete on her own, as Travis teaches about in GirlGetsRing. I also know that a girl ditches her friends as soon as she's in a relationship, otherwise she would be telling stories about them.

When I hear about a woman's exes I start to compare myself to them and I don't like that. I only talk about my exes in my books and blog posts, I never talk about them on dates. I don't want to make a woman I'm with uncomfortable and you shouldn't do it to a man. You might be thinking right now that there is an exception to the rule, but there really isn't. Talking about your exes is always awful on a first date.

DO YOU WANT TO GET MARRIED?

I talk extensively in GirlGetsRing about my one blind date. My dad set me up with a girl who was just awful. One of the many mistakes she made was asking questions that let me know she was clearly husband shopping.

Let me be clear: I want you to marry me because you think I'm amazing, not because you want to be married!

Husband auditions remove every single piece of specialness from a relationship. Why would you ever want to do that? It's ok to screen a man and see if he's good husband material, but don't be OBVIOUS about it.

Do not ask a man if he wants to get married, if he wants to have children, where he sees himself in five years, etc.

All these questions are big red flags. I've actually recently decided that I'm finally old enough to consider settling down - but these questions still freak me out.

THE INTERVIEW

I'm a savvy conversationalist. I have written several books on dating and communication, given numerous lectures and personally trained hundreds of men on ways to improve their conversational and dating skills...and yet I still go on boring dates.

Some women will do whatever it takes to be on a boring date.

Here is a secret about women: you will ask boring questions and then get upset with a man for giving boring answers. This is a huge problem in online dating that I discuss in The Perfect Profile - women make boring profiles and then can't figure out why they are getting boring emails.

On a date you don't want to ask questions. Normal conversation is a flow of statements. When you are talking to your friends, it is almost always a group of people taking turns telling stories. The only time we get asked questions is at job interviews and on bad dates.

I know that sometimes you are both nervous and can't make the conversation flow. So it is ok to ask questions - they just have to be open ended. Don't ask him where he works. How much money he makes. Does he have any brothers and sisters. What's his favorite color. How was the commute to work.

You want to ask "interesting" questions:

What's your best friend like?

Would you rather be able to fly or breathe underwater? Why?

If you could go anywhere in the world where would you go?

What makes you happy?

I know these are deeper questions, but there is nothing worse than being boring. It's the ultimate curse on a woman and it's just as bad as being called desperate.

If you can avoid these three mistakes your dates will start going a lot better. And that will make life so much easier.

Recommended books (downloadable pdfs):

Brian Caniglia - Online Dating Secrets
David Deangelo - Double Your Dating How To Change Yourself
Dating Insider - Getting The First Date

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Chris Was Caught With Another Women

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Tenchi Muyo and all characters of Tenchi Muyo (i.e. Ryoko, Washu, Ayeka,...) are owned by AIC and Pioneer. I do not own the right to them nor do I have their permission to use them. [So don't tell them I did!] Chris Storm and Poe are a trademark of WWA-Web Wrestling Association- wrestling and copyright of Jerrod Yance Darson. All ideas and extra characters are fully fictional and not meant to be copied. If a character or idea is similar to one of yours e-mail me with a copy from the story about the problem with a copy of your work. Don't sue me because all you will get is my bills. I am a poor white writer that lives on bread and milk. It's sad but true. I don't make money from this or e-feds and e-wrestling. Also to the makers of Scooby Doo's whatever it was called movie, I used the idea of Louisiana and the swamps. Don't sue me either. In fact I don't want anyone to sue me for anything I do. Just hit me in the stomach or something. That would be better.

(Four of the young visitors have been split up. The Saiyan, the space pirate, the little genius, and our hero Tenchi. Each has by some fate ended up lost in this foreign land. But was it really fate or was it part of one's master plan? Right now, Washu is confused looking around for some type of landmark to point her in the right direction. She makes a turn around a tree and bumps into Poe.)

Washu: Oh, Poe. Thank goodness I bumped into you. I'm lost. Which way is it to the plantation?

Poe: For the universe's greatest genius, you sure did make a stupid mistake.

Washu: *shocked* What did you just say?

Poe: Oh yes, I know you and your ego.

Washu: How, how do you know that!

Poe: I make it my business to know! After all, you're the genius around here. Why don't you figure it out. But then again there was always many things you didn't know.

Washu: Nonsense. I'm Little Washu. There is nothing I don't know.

Poe: Oh really? Where is your child?

Washu: *hurt* That was wrong Poe.

Poe: Ha! Some women you are. You can not cut it as a genius so you super-size your ego into making everyone believe you really are as smart as you want them to believe. You can not cut it as a mother. You couldn't even cut it as an adult! You are just a waste of breath!

Washu: Lies! There all lies!

Poe: It's the truth and you know it! You have never been a success at anything you have ever tried! Even as we speak you are losing the only thing you ever considered your second child.

Washu: What? What do you mean!

Poe: I mean, you are sitting by and watching as Chris takes away your second child, Ryoko. And all you can do it watch! You are helpless to stop him. He's going to take her away from you just like your husband took away your first child. You are unworthy to be a mother.

Washu: No! No you're wrong.

(Washu starts to start deeply. She sits down at the base of the tree crying. Poe looks down on her and spits next to her feet.)

Poe: Just sit there and cry. That is all you have ever been good at! You're so helpless, no wonder no child ever stayed with you very long. No wonder Kagato was easily able to imprison you and take over everything you have ever done!

(In a fit of rage, Washu gets up and tries to slap Poe. Poe merely moves out of the way and lets Washu hit nothing but air. He pushes her back down on the ground. Washu starts to cry harder now then before.)

Poe: You are all alone in this world. You are an outsider to the group. They don't even notice you are there. Your greatest fear will come true. You are going to die alone, by yourself in your lab and no one will even know or care.

(Poe walks away from Washu leaving her mentally damaged. Washu can not even make the effort to get up off the ground. She just sits there doing nothing. Her head buried in her knees and her arms wrapped around her legs. Miles away and lost himself, Chris makes twist after turn through the maze. Each wrong turn makes him more anger and anger. Chris soon starts to rip through the hedges rather then go around them. He barrels through one and finds himself looking directly at Poe.)

Chris: Poe, what are you doing here? Ah who gives a care! I need your help. I started thinking and not paying attention to where I was going and I sort of got lost. Which way is it to the exit?

Poe: With all your power and you still can't find your way out of a simple maze? I'm not surprised to see you using force to get out. Well here in my little maze, force only gets you deeper and deeper into the maze.

Chris: Your maze? What are you talking about?

Poe: Oh yes, I created this maze to get you lost in it. After all, I promised two young love birds that they would get the nest alone for the day.

Chris: No! You are lying!

Poe: Am I? Well Chris, my father had another saying, "Believe not what you hear and what you see." So let me show you what I mean. After all, Saiyans are not on the top when it comes to understanding even simple things.

(Poe casts him hand forward at Chris. Behind Chris appears a small window.)

Poe: Well what are you waiting for? Look through that window to see the truth. I need to warn you though, this show isn't for people under 18.

(A confused and worried Chris turns around to look through the window. Inside he can see his room at the plantation. Ryoko is laying in the bed under the covers. Chris screams out to her.)

Poe: She can not hear you. Nor would she even care if she could. To me it looks like she's waiting for someone. You maybe?

Chris: Oh course she is.

Poe: Keep looking.

(Chris turns back to the window and sees someone enter the picture. Once the person has crawled into the bed with Ryoko, Chris can see who it is. None other then Tenchi. Chris grabs with window, screaming at Ryoko. Inside it, Tenchi has rolled over on Ryoko and they have started passionately kissing. Chris tries to punch the window but his hand goes through it.)

Poe: Now, now Chris. If you keep acting like this, I won't let you hear what they are saying.

Chris: Tell me what they are saying right now!

Poe: Fine but just remember that you asked.

(Poe throws his hand toward the window and now Chris finds himself in the room with Ryoko and Tenchi. Poe walks behind him and pats him on the back.)

Poe: I think they make a very nice couple don't you? I mean this is what you always wanted isn't it? Ryoko and Tenchi together at last! Oh what a grand adventure this is!

Ryoko: Oh Tenchi, I'm so glad you had that idea to fool Chris into going into that maze. He's so stupid that he will be in there for days.

Tenchi: Yes, but why do we have to keep doing this? Just dump him so we don't have to sneak away to have this moments.

Ryoko: I would dump him but I feel so sorry for him. After all, he has nothing but me. He doesn't have a life. I pity him.

Tenchi: Yes we all pity Chris. I guess that's why we let him stay with us. We all felt sorry for him. The guy had no where to go, no one to go to, or a life to return too. Course now we all have to put up with him and his garbage.

Ryoko: Yes, he's brought so much pain to this house. He's damn well near killed you, me, and everyone else here. He's a wrecking ball! Tenchi please kick him out!

Poe: Ok that's a little bit more then I wanted you to hear. Sorry there pal.

(Poe raises his hand and soon Chris and he, are back at the hedge maze. Chris turns to Poe pissed.)

Chris: I'm not your pal. That was nothing more then some stupid parlor trick! All lies you made up.

Poe: Oh that hurts me to hear you say such words about someone that just showed you the truth on your life. Chris search your heart. You know that everything you saw was true. After all, you said so yourself. Why would Ryoko ever love someone like you. You have been telling yourself for weeks now that you cause the family so much grief. You brought Genesis straight to them, you nearly killed them yourself, my god man! What more do you plan to do to this people!

(Chris falls to his knees. He looks up at Poe.)

Chris: Why? Why are you doing this to me? What have I ever done to you?

Poe: Maybe next time you will reconsider killing someone's older brother! Genesis was my role model! And you and your stupid group took him from me!

Chris: Genesis never had a brother. I worked with him for years. He never said anything about you.

Poe: Ha! That just goes to show how stupid you are. You think Genesis would be dumb enough to let people know about his family. That would only led to them getting into danger. To bad your stupid ass never learned that.

Chris: No.... No!... NO!

Poe: Everyone you care about is a target. Everyone you love will die. And it's all your fault.

Chris: I'll kill you Poe!

(Chris pulls out a Colt.45 automatic from his gun belt he always wears. He points and shoots Poe. The bullet hits him straight in the forehead. Poe's head recoils back on impact. Chris starts to laugh but soon stops once he sees Poe's head was undamaged from the shot.)

Poe: Like I said before, force can not stop me. You are helpless to stop me from taking everything from you. Just like you always have been. Training day and night for nothing. All the hours under extreme gravity was a waste of time.

(Chris gets up but Poe punches him in the gut with an uppercut type punch. Chris falls to his knees in pain. Poe puts his foot in Chris' face and pushes him over to his side. Chris looks on, helpless as Poe walks away. Chris just stays in a fetal position.)

Poe: Sorry to have to leave like this but I have other people I need to visit.

(Poe laughs as he disappears in the mist again. Back at the bar, Ryoko has wondered outside.
She leans against one of the walls. Poe approaches her.)

Poe: Sorry for taking so long, but I ran into Chris back at the plantation. Weird, he didn't seem to want to talk. He keep motioning for me to leave. Guess that waitress he was talking to must have been telling him something important. Although I don't remember seeing her working her before.

Ryoko: Did you catch her name by any chance?

Poe: Oh no, I'm not ratting Chris out. I can see I'm stumbled into something I wasn't supposed to.

Ryoko: Poe, tell me what her name was right this very second.

(Ryoko grabs him by the collar and lifts him off the ground.)

Poe: Ok, ok I'll tell you. But not because I was scared or anything. But because I feel it is my duty to.

Ryoko: Bullshit! Not what was her name!

Poe: If you must know it was Keisho. But I don't see why it matters.

Ryoko: You are lying!

Poe: Oh yes. I guess some men just have a harder time learning lessons then others.

Ryoko: What are you talking about?

Poe: That seems to be the question of the day? What do I mean? Well let me tell you my little space pirate.

(Ryoko is taken by surprise by Poe's knowledge of her being a space pirate.)

Poe: As you very well know this isn't Chris' first time with Keisho. But I bet you dimes to nickels you know what they did last time. You just won't admit it. But you can't disagree with what you see.

(Poe cast his hand forward and the Louisiana back lands changes to Okayama. More importantly, the women's bath where weeks ago before Ryoko and Chris started dating, Chris was caught with another women. Ryoko walks around the bath room and turns to Poe.)

Ryoko: Why are you showing me this?

Poe: Because you need to accept the truth! Now watch and see what really happened. What you know in the back of your head, what really happened!

(Soon Chris and Keisho enter the bath room. They are laughing merrily and playing around.
Chris turns her around and kisses her softly, much like he kisses Ryoko. The two slip off their clothes and enter the bath. They start kissing more passionately now. Ryoko tries to hit Keisho but only goes through her.)

Poe: Now, now Ryoko. I can only bring you into the past. I can not change it. What's done is done. Now keep watching.

(Ryoko turns back to them. Chris runs his hand down Keisho's body and into her lower area.
Ryoko can not see what is happening because it's under water but she well knows what is going on. Ryoko starts to cry as her heart breaks into a million pieces. The bath room changes back to the Louisiana swamps as Poe raises his hand again.)

Ryoko: You made that entire thing up. Chris was just helping her wash her back. He told me so!

Poe: And you believed him. I guess it really is easy to believe something when you want to deny the truth. That is why you keep chasing Tenchi's heart isn't it? You don't want to admit that he has and always will love Ayeka.

Ryoko: Ha! He doesn't love that little princess! How can he? When he could have had me.

Poe: Maybe your overbearingness is what drove him into her arms. Then again it might be because no man can love a pirate. You think they want to get into a relationship with you? You seem like more trouble then you are worth. Nothing but skin to them. It's easy to understand why you think about sex so much. It's the only thing that keeps a man interested in you.

Ryoko: No! I'm more then just that. Chris does love me for who I am.

Poe: Who are you? Just who are you? Some murderer? A space pirate? A criminal that is doomed to rot away in a jail cell until you die!

Ryoko: No. No. That's not who I am.

Poe: They fear you Ryoko. They are scared that you will kill them in their sleep. Like a wild beast ready to pounce on it's unexpecting victim. That is why Chris has been getting out of bed at night. Or maybe he just can't stand the thought of being in the same bed as you. Maybe he loathes the things he does with you every single night. And Tenchi can't even stand the thought of your touch.

Ryoko: No... it's not true... it's just not true.

(Ryoko sinks down and starts to cry to herself. Poe just looks at her. He walks away leaving her to cry. He moves on to his next and final victim of mind games. Meanwhile, Tenchi finally has awoken from his sleep to discover the boat has gone past the pier he was supposed to get off at.
He's now miles down the river. He rolls off the deck chair and looks around for a sign of life. He finds none until he enters the Captain's room. There he finds Poe waiting for him.)

Tenchi: Oh Poe it's you. Where is the captain at?

Poe: I'm the captain of this here boat laddy! Now have yourself a sit because it's going to be a long ride!

Tenchi: *scared* Ha, ha very funny Poe. Now where is the captain.

Poe: Look at my hat. It's the captain's hat. Now shut up and go swap the poop deck or something. Your toothbrush and pale are over in the closet.

(Tenchi looks behind him to the closet Poe was pointing at. He unsteadily opens it to reveal the real captain dead from a stab to the forehead by a knife. Tenchi backs up slowly in horror.)

Tenchi: What's going on here Poe?

Poe: What's going on? I'll tell you what is going on. It's called justice. You see, you have this grand life where everything has come easy to you. Five beautiful women fall into your lap. You are a nature-born athlete that makes straight A's in school. You are heir to the throne of a planet.
But are you happy? No you complain about this, you complain about that. "I don't get any privacy.", "I want a normal life". Well you was blessed with a great life where others here have been born to a life of hell!

Tenchi: I never asked for any of those things to happen to me. I was just an innocent bystander.

(Poe throws the captain's hat at Tenchi. He turns to face him now.)

Poe: An innocent bystander? Is that what you call it? Tenchi you are a weak, pathetic boy. You are unworthy of the life you have led. Too scared to hurt anyone's feelings but at the same time, you hurt everyone around you. You treat them like they are not there and that hurts them more then anything.

Tenchi: It's the only thing I can think to do. I don't want to hurt them by choosing among them.
It would only drive them apart.

Poe: I only hope it drives them away from you. Without you, each would be leading the life they were meant too. They would all be better off without you. They would have been better off not even knowing you. Ayeka and Sasami would be peacefully ruling over Juria right now. Mihoshi could be at Galaxy Police headquarters, enjoying her job. Ryoko and Washu could both know a life without pain. Without hurt or anger or fear.

Tenchi: They all choose to stay with me. I never asked them to. It's not my fault.

Poe: It never is, is it? Isn't not your fault the blood of Kagato and Genesis is on your hands is it?
You are a murderer Tenchi Masaki. A cold blooded killer.

Tenchi: No, it's not true. That was in self-defense. I didn't want to do it.

Poe: More excuses from you, Tenchi? When are you going to take responsibility for your actions?

(As Poe continues to bash Tenchi with word after word, the boat crashes into the bank. Poe and Tenchi are sent out to the deck upon impact. Tenchi jumps off the boat and starts running through the woods. Poe just stands on the boat as a proud victor in some deadly battle. Four people he poisoned with his tongue. Each now making their way through the woods, unbeknownst to each other that they are soon to meet.)

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Nlp Sales Negotiation Techniques That Work On The Customers Internal Map Of Reality

Sales negotiations work in two ways. In the external real world, and in the customer's internal world where they make pictures, listen to self talk, and create feelings and emotions. Most sales people know how to negotiate in the real world, but how many can use powerful NLP sales negotiation techniques to negotiate in the internal world of the buyer's mind.

Negotiation techniques are used when there is a discussion between two or more people with separate objectives for a common situation. This happens all the time as you try and close a sale. Imagine what an advantage you would have if you focused on what the buyer's real objectives are, and how they arrived at them.

Internal and external negotiation techniques

There are two negotiations going on at the same time. One is in the real world. The other is in the internal world of the buyer's mind.

Your objective is for you and the customer to see the sale from the same viewpoint. For example the customer won't agree to the price you are asking. If you drop your price you have moved to where they are in the external world. This is using external negotiating techniques, and it's cost you money.

In the same situation you might stick to your sales price but build the value of your product by changing the internal viewpoint the customer has on the value of the product. What the benefits of the product are worth to them. Nothing has happened in the external world. It's the same product at the same price. This is sales negotiation techniques used in the internal world, and it hasn't cost you a penny. External negotiation moves usually cost you money or time. Internal negotiating skills help you avoid giving discounts and making concessions. So which do you want to use?

Sales negotiation starting points

The buyer enters the negotiation stage of the sale with a viewpoint, and a set of beliefs and ideas. To negotiate in their world you want to find out where and how this starting point was formed. This will lead to you understanding their motivators and drivers. You will be able to relate to the reference points they are using to form their starting position on their map of reality.

For example, when a buyer says the price is expensive, you should first ask how they arrived at that belief. Are they comparing your price to a competitor's offer? They may not see the value they will get from the benefits you have presented. The buyer could be comparing your price against a price they presumed they would be paying. What evidence have they used to create that belief? This is one simple viewpoint that the buyer has. It has been formed by taking in information. That information could be correct or false. They could have distorted it, made generalizations, or misunderstood parts of it.

During the sales process enter their map of the world. Question their beliefs. Find out what they think they know about the product, your competitors, the cost, the value, the market. Are they basing their ideas of what the cost should be on a purchase they made five years ago? As early as the introduction and questioning stage of the sales process you can start to change their viewpoint, and stop sales objections coming up in the negotiation stage.

Now you can start negotiating

You understand the starting point and what's going on in the internal world of your customer. Now you can use internal sales negotiation techniques to move the buyer closer to agreeing a sale with you. This is where many sales people make the most common mistake when negotiating. They focus on the differences between their position and the buyer's. This just highlights the obstacles and does nothing to build a relationship on which agreements can be formed.

If you want to know how to negotiate to get the best possible outcome, start by confirming with the customer on what you agree on. What do the two starting points have in common? This is solid ground to build upon. Then move to the areas of the negotiation where you are close to an agreement. Question the buyer's position and how they formed it internally. When you know how a belief was formed you can change it.

For example, the buyer wants the product delivering this month and you can't get it to them for 2 months. Question why they want it this month. What is their motivator for wanting the delivery this month? What beliefs do they hold that make this a need on their map of the world? Now take the motivators and the beliefs, and the other information you have, and use it to negotiate on their map of reality. Find alternative ways to fit with their beliefs, or change them. Look at how you can satisfy their motivators and still get what you want from the negotiation. Is their a way to pacify the needs the buyer believes they have? Can you change their reasons behind their needs so they fit closer to what you can provide? If the buyer wants an early delivery date because they have been let down in the past, then you can change their belief about your promise rather than a physical concession in the real world.

Overcoming the major differences

When you have moved positions on the points you and the buyer were close to agreeing, but had some differences, you can work on negotiating the points you are farthest away from agreeing.

Look at what you've achieved up to this point with your negotiation techniques. You've confirmed what you had in common at the start of the negotiations. Using negotiating skills you have moved the buyer's position on some points. This has built a solid relationship that will help you with the next stages of the negotiation. You have also created a pathway for agreement. A process that has worked towards closing the deal, and will continue to work. When you summarise how much you and the buyer have come together it will make the remaining points to be discussed look small in comparison. You have achieved so much that neither you nor the buyer wants to lose what you have.

Use the same process of finding where the buyer's beliefs have come from. How they were formed, what evidence they are based on, and what the buyer really needs from them. Change the beliefs that you can, and find alternative ways to achieve the same objective for the buyer with the others. When you have used all the internal negotiation techniques you may still be left with differences that prevent the sale going ahead. This is when you start negotiating in the real world. You achieve your objectives by giving to the buyer, but always getting something in return. Each discount or concession you make should result in a step closer to closing the deal.

The sales negotiation process

You begin by understanding the buyer's starting position and how it was formed. You question their beliefs and their viewpoints. You understand their motivators, what they want from the negotiation.

The next stage is to confirm the common ground. Agree what you agree on. This forms the foundation of the negotiation relationship, and gives you both something that is worth building upon.

Now work on the negotiation points where your differences are smallest. This creates an agreement habit. It helps form a process that will be useful when you face the points of major difference. The more you agree upon, the more your customer will not want to waste what they have achieved so far.

All that remains are the points on which you have the most distance apart. But by now you have agreed so much that these points will look small on the buyer's internal map of the discussions. This is where you can start using negotiation techniques in the real external world. If you had made the common mistake of starting with these major challenges you would be facing a huge obstacle.

Stephen Craine is a working sales manager and trainer for a major UK company. He uses his experience of sales, motivation training, NLP, and personal development coaching, to achieve results for himself through the achievements of others in a sales environment.

All the sales training presented here, and on the website, has been tested and proved by working sales people in real sales situations. There are no acronyms, buzz words, or complicated techniques to market training courses. The focus is on practical sales training that achieves results.

Stephen has recently teamed up with a successful clicnical hypnotherapist in Manchester uk to offer sales and career coaching to private clients and small businesses. Combining the power of hypnosis to make personal changes and overcome obstacles, with the practical experience of a professional sales coach, offers a unique training resource.

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Kompas Cyber Media

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* Min. S-1 degree in Psychology/Law/Human Resource Ruling
* Min. 2-3 natural life experience in Everyday Resource (In addition in the field of Person concerned Pending such as Adherence Ruling, Workload Investigate, Originality Ruling)
* Faster support experience in Recruitment Portion,Instruction and Industrial Virtual
* Breakneck to become accustomed and likable
* Abundant and contemporary
* Trouble a high motivation, high vigor and achievement
* Has experience in finishing the work
* Faster support experience interacting with a faithful group or community
* Attentive in having a career in media companies

Referee KOMPASIANA AND KOMPAS Meeting - JAKARTAREQUIREMENTS

* Token Identification Nuance (any drill)
* Ask and support experience in writing blog, online forum and kaskus
* Demonstrates adroitness in creating new ideas/concept
* Work great under insist, time of a mind and aim achievement of a mind
* Trouble familiar wisdom and inhabit in online literature
* Loquacious in English, each one traditional and on paper will be an good thing
* Strong personality, crisp, high charm and facts the ability to work in a commission situation
* Cheer up create your blog relate and/or your online forum username in your CV

Publicity Commentary Executive (CODE: Development) - JAKARTAREQUIREMENTS

* Token Bachelor Nuance (any drill)
* Requisite support min. 2 natural life experience in promotion/ advertising/ marketing communication, in media industry (multimedia elected).
* Celebrated in making fad measure idea.
* Elder networking, good skills in presentation, communication and negotiation
* Cute, eye-catching, support the ability to direct a car and support a legal thug go by
* Strong personality, crisp, high charm and facts the ability to work in a commission situation

Industrial Tribe Formal [ER]

* Full-fledged for regulate legal affairs and developed relations thrust
* Single with a better age of 25 natural life
* S1 from reputable the academy, majoring in Law with GPA of at smallest 3:00
* Faster has relevant experience min. 1 go out with
* Mastering the Opus Law
* Having a good wisdom of the issue of developed relations (the summary of rod, production manufacturing, outsourcing, etc.)
* Thick personality and good interpersonal skills
* Trouble a driver's go by (SIM A)

Chronicle Executive (AE)

* Full-fledged for achieving sales aim promotion, compiling and presenting ad sales, and present good relationships with trade and promotion agencies.
* Single with a better age of 25 natural life
* S1 of the leading universities in all commands, slightly from the Job of Commentary (Promotion) with a GPA of at smallest 3:00
* Pet experience in the field of Sales and Publicity min.1 go out with, slightly in an promotion agency or media marketing
* Broadcast attractive and support a high confidence
* Mastering a curious language (English or Mandarin) to be a plus
* Having presentation skills and good communication
* Trouble a driver's go by (SIM A)

COPYWRITER [CW]

* Full-fledged for writing the advertorial, korporatorial, articles in the sheet klasika and further promotion products
* Single with a better age of 25 natural life
* S1 and priority of the Job of Indonesian Lettering or Communications (literature) with a GPA of at smallest 3:00
* Trouble a high inhabit in writing
* The ability of a good survey
* Instruction in the field of camera work or invention is a plus
* Abundant and undo
* Resolute to work with energetic working time

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A Guy Is Having A Conversation With A Woman

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WHEN I'M HAVING A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN, I SOMETIMES FEEL LIKE I DOMINATE THE INTERACTION AND MAKE IT BORING BY ASKING THE SAME SERIES OF QUESTIONS. HOW CAN GUYS MAKE THEIR CONVERSATIONS FLOW MORE NATURALLY BY NOT TRYING TO CONTROL OR STRUCTURE THEIR INTERACTIONS TOO MUCH?

Having strong conversation skills is a great way to improve your success with women, but if you are having a lot of difficulty with interacting naturally then you might be trying to pre-plan what to say instead of going with the flow. You will probably find that working on your spontaneity and creativity will be a great way to overcome this problem. I would highly recommend tat you take up something like an improvisation class so that you can learn what it really means to be spontaneous and how to go with the flow instead of against it.

One of the really invaluable skills that you can learn with something like an improvisation class is how to work with whatever you are presented instead of trying to force things in. Chatting with women is a bit like putting together a puzzle. The key is finding the right place for each piece instead of trying to fit the pieces into the spaces that are immediately available. Trying to fit every piece into each space is repetitive, laborious, and boring.

The same principle applies when you are having a conversation. If you keep trying to ask questions or talk about things which you planned in advance, then the conversation is going to become unnatural and boring. This will obviously show that you don't have a strong understanding of what it means to be social and that you probably don't communicate with many people, particularly women. So learning to improvise is a skill that is definitely worth practising and honing.

WHEN A GUY IS HAVING A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN, IS THERE ANY WAY FOR HIM TO TELL WHETHER IT IS GOING OKAY? FOR EXAMPLE, IS THERE A CERTAIN PERCENTAGE OF TALKING THAT HE SHOULD DO OR THAT SHE SHOULD DO?

It is best not to think about a conversation in terms of percentages or worry about how much of the conversation you should contribute. Just focus on learning what it means to be more engaging. Conversation is not just about what you say. It is also about how you say things and how your gestures, motions, and body language create an inviting environment. I have noticed that guys tend to be really still or stiff when they have conversations with women. They don't use their hands to gesture or use their facial expressions to communicate the emotions which they are feeling.

One really good way to develop your conversational skills is to take up an acting class. This can help you get used to the idea of emphasizing your facial expressions and using more powerful gesturing. If you watch some clips of really good public speakers, or anyone who is very engaging and charismatic, you will see that they always use their hands very evocatively.

Recommended books (downloadable pdfs):

Steve Scott - How To Flirt And Create Hypnotic Conversations With Women
Steve Scott - The Secret To Amazing Phone Conversations With Women

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Femina Group Job Vacancy

We came into being in 1972 with the pioneer of Femina, the first women's magazine in Indonesia.

Habitually so subsequently, we devour full-fledged to become a trusted media group as the contents are on a par with the Indonesian main beliefs. We attentively brandish to hand over numerous brands and products that are very well customary by Indonesians.

Through 14 magazines, as well as added divisions like ingenious boutique, fact scrape, radio center, publishing habitat and online publications, we move beyond the ends. Utilizing a wide personal of new support such as the Internet, brand inauguration and the communities, enables us to optimize the potentials of all divisions and commence a bear in any form.

The word out of the question does not aware in our lexicon. The whole overwhelm is a step to progress, and every challenge is the chance to innovate.

Femina Strain is a multichannel media company, we are dedicated to protect information courtesy / pile media pleased. The company's propel is to empower the Indonesian society by delivering information in a straight line mail media, online media, reproduction media, brand inauguration and added incorporated contacts support that makes the company to be the best in the media industry for building.

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Decide Tyro (CODE: ITS)

Jakarta Raya

Responsibilities:

* Important custody duties power clinch escape managerial, in force and program support for editorial/commercial/marketing/administrative outlook

Requirements:

* Currently enrolled in a Bachelor's or Diploma's Amount in appropriate field program of study
* Enter in the increase activities
* Offshoot manage at glowing proficient level
* Least Unattached Amount in appropriate field
* Full notebook skills in Microsoft Offshoot Programs
* Full extrapolative and sharp-witted thinking skills, able to work under require

Promotion Regulator (CODE: AM)

Jakarta Raya

Responsibilities:

* Curb public relations sales/number of magazines, make a strategic relation with patrons to raise wages of all magazines in Femina Strain

Requirements:

* Least 3 energy experience in smooth position, pretty from the media industry/advertising/multinational company
* Having a good leadership skills and able to act favorably
* Penury devour a good networking with good persuasion to lobbyist
* Having a great seasoning in media industry
* Least of Unattached Amount
* Professional in English (in black and white ">ADVERTISING DIGITAL Regulator (CODE: ADM)

Jakarta Raya

Responsibilities:

* Curb web public relations sales of magazines, make a strategic relation with patrons to raise wages of all magazines in Femina Strain

Requirements:

* Least 3 energy experience in smooth position, pretty from online industry/advertising/multinational companies
* Full seasoning in digital internet equip
* Having a good leadership skills and able to act favorably
* Penury devour a good networking with good persuasion to lobbyist
* Having a great seasoning in media industry
* Least of Unattached Amount
* Professional in English (in black and white ">ACCOUNT Official (CODE: AE)

Jakarta Raya

Responsibilities:

* Trade public relations to elate wages of private magazine

Requirements:

* Max. 30 energy old
* Grip experience in media industry or agency, with good copy list in Sales/Marketing will be an mistreat (fresh graduate are welcome)
* Having a great seasoning in media industry
* Least of Unattached Amount
* Professional in English (in black and white ">DIGITAL SALES Official (CODE: DSE)

Jakarta Raya

Responsibilities:

* Sales executive to hand over digital marketing solutions to product controller, using a portfolio of products from our website.

Requirements:

* Having experience, pretty in online public relations
* Mastery of online marketing, SEM, Social Media and web development
* Well-known copy list of sales success in an entrepreneurial site
* A want wits, optional extra towards online, digital and interactive product
* Having a great seasoning in media industry
* Least of Unattached Amount
* Professional in English (in black and white ">PROMOTION Official (CODE: PE)

Jakarta Raya

Responsibilities:

* Implementing marketing strategy into increase activities of magazine group with the arranged cutback to improve the image of a single / group magazine Femina Strain

Requirements:

* Max. 30 energy old
* Grip experience in media industry or agency, with good copy list in Sales/Marketing will be an mistreat (fresh graduate are welcome)
* Overpowering to layout and carry out store promo/events and product initiation.
* Having a great seasoning in media industry
* Least of Unattached Amount
* Professional in English (in black and white ">EDITOR (CODE: EDR)

Jakarta Raya

Requirements:

* Having a great seasoning in media industry
* Least of Unattached Amount
* Professional in English (in black and white ">FASHION EDITOR (CODE: F-EDR)

Jakarta Raya

Requirements:

* Unattached Amount in Control or Aspect Control or appropriate field
* Flicker on art and prayer trends, able to directing style for model or product
* Fortunate networking with art and prayer industries
* Having a great seasoning in media industry
* Least of Unattached Amount
* Professional in English (in black and white ">CULINARY EDITOR (CODE: B-EDR)

Jakarta Raya

Requirements:

* Unattached Amount in Small house and Visiting the attractions or Provisions Science or any appropriate field
* Overpowering to cook national or international recipes, devour good considerate on generate nourishment
* Having a great seasoning in media industry
* Least of Unattached Amount
* Professional in English (in black and white ">MULTI-MEDIA JOURNALIST/PHOTOJOURNALIST (CODE: MMJ)

Jakarta Raya

Requirements:

Clear-cut Requirement:

* This position requires experience in shooting, control, lighting, writing and social media
* A degree in reproduction characters or communications is most wanted
* To first in this position you want be big game, big game and able to meet miserable deadlines, work with the resources approachable (camera
* equipment, control and photo software) and jam high quality videos

Public Requirement:

* Having a great seasoning in media industry
* Least of Unattached Amount
* Professional in English (in black and white ">ONLINE Publicity Procedural (CODE: OMS)

Jakarta Raya

Responsibilities:

* Plan and carry out PPC, Promotion, Social Media, Email marketing and SEO Campaigns, Curb Blog, social media and added SEO contend and Place Wording Trade

Requirements:

* At smallest number of 1 go out with of experience in the online marketing activities described terminated
* Demonstrated ability to carry action based on analytics, ability to bridge the stick to jam successful outcomes
* Full writing skills, rapacious curiosity, comfort practicing with HTML, CSS and Photoshop is an mistreat
* Least Unattached Amount, having a great seasoning in media industry
* Fortunate Wisdom in market potential, market box, market strategy, marketing information and decision making
* Apparition in strategic planning and application of marketing tools
* Professional in English (in black and white ">INTERACTIVE MEDIA EDITOR (CODE: IME)

Jakarta Raya

Responsibilities:

* Confer on be at fault for shift, control and ornamental audience-focused pleased for multi-media presentation (internet, mail, mobile). Be first and work with reporters/bloggers on pleased development, ensuring the pleased is nice, glassy and compelling.

Requirements:

* Well-known ability to work at once and completely using a Web-based pleased charge system.
* 1-2 energy of professional website experience is most wanted.
* Eloquence in web technology and online pleased publishing looked-for
* Applicants requirement be skilled with hands-on HTML/stylesheet coding and glowing proficient with Microsoft Offshoot and image-editing software such as Adobe Photoshop or Elements.
* Original or professional experience using web-based social networks is most wanted, or want become nimble at using them
* Having a great seasoning in media industry
* Least of Unattached Amount
* Professional in English (in black and white ">MARKETING Official (CODE: ME)

Jakarta Raya

Responsibilities:

* Involve in enlarge marketing campaigns that cork all product in Femina Strain. The role includes planning, public relations, inhabitant relations, product development, distribution, sponsorship and research, to raise the level of readership/magazine subscription, sponsor, improve and escalate the image of Femina Strain

Requirements:

* Utmost 28 energy old, energetic, spell out tilting and ingenious
* Grip experience in media industry or agency, with good copy list in Sales/Marketing will be an mistreat (fresh graduate are welcome)
* Least Unattached Amount, having a great seasoning in media industry
* Fortunate Wisdom in market potential, market box, market strategy, marketing information and decision making
* Apparition in strategic planning and application of marketing tools
* Professional in English (in black and white ">FINANCE/ACCOUNTING Regulator(CODE: FAM)

Jakarta Raya

Responsibilities:

* Curb and test out that all Company's financial put in the picture and Managements Accounts are reported providential, faithful and traditionalism under programming
* Curb all the Company's financial functions and at fault for all accounting processes and have the courage controls

Requirements:

* Max. 45 energy old, Unattached Amount in Finance/Accounting or added appropriate field
* Grip experience at smallest number of 3 energy in the self-same position
* Least Unattached Amount in appropriate field
* Full notebook skills in Microsoft Offshoot Programs
* Full extrapolative and sharp-witted thinking skills, able to work under require

FINANCE/ACCOUNTING Tablet (CODE: FAS)

Jakarta Raya

Requirements:

* Woman,24-33 energy old, Unattached Amount in Finance/Accounting/other appropriate field
* Know in the self-same field will be an mistreat (fresh graduate are welcome)
* Logical, good time charge, spell out person and big game to work overtime
* Least Unattached Amount in appropriate field
* Full notebook skills in Microsoft Offshoot Programs
* Full extrapolative and sharp-witted thinking skills, able to work under require

Attendant Supervisor Participant (CODE: SAA)

Jakarta Raya

Responsibilities:

* Assisting Attendant Supervisor to unit report, joblessness system and jam conversion system using VMware Fake or Backupexec
* Migrating attendant into virtual shape, unit virtual attendant for mass system
* Imply in attendance virtual system, updating tabloid double and report system

Requirements:

* Having experience for in action double system
* Grip beefy considerate in Windows Attendant manage, Switch attendant manage, Linux/Samba/Mysql manage and Vmware/virtualitation
* Having MCSE/VMWare contract will be an mistreat
* Least Unattached Amount in appropriate field
* Full notebook skills in Microsoft Offshoot Programs
* Full extrapolative and sharp-witted thinking skills, able to work under require

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Expect Black Female Models To Look Like White Girls Dipped In Chocolate

"This guest pillar (which likewise appears close to) is by Renee, who blogs at Womanist Musings."

The in arrears documentary looks at the struggles of Ren'ee Thompson, a beautiful Black model attempting to gain a position in New York Grandeur Week. Nonetheless the fact that she is unmistakably beautiful, the dislike of foreigners in the design industry has been challenging.

Whatsoever the agents and designers signal to dance approximately something like this incomplete documentary is that they are vigorously in force dislike of foreigners.

Jeanne Beker the mass of "Grandeur Television" had this to say:

"At hand still seems to be this crazy well-mannered of dislike of foreigners, I irritation to call it that. A well-mannered of recognition in the design world, that sometimes you do see, you narrate, a Black girl on the runway, it's forcefully out of a tokenism. Everyone's pointing fingers. Several people might say that it's the agents that are to due, they're not scouting these girls, they're not soothing them, they're not signing them. Possibly it's the designers right off the bat; designers necessary look after that "this is my opulent." Even for ad campaigns, hire girls that can just pay for a not many arrogant jumble to the table."

What time she may irritation to call it dislike of foreigners, that is permission what it is. Being agents and designers are vigorously saying that they "need a Black model, but she has to be a Colorless girl hollow in sweetie," it speaks to a nonstop rejection of all belongings Black. African American skin texture are not seen as attractive and Perry, Renee's broker confirms this:

"You narrate in the past you come in with big eyes, big starting place, big anything, big orifice, belongings that are junction traits in African-Americans, it doesn't work. But for folks okay few girls that look like Renee, they assume Colorless girl skin texture, and it's well-mannered of messed up, but that is just the way that the industry is."

It is only like this for instance Whiteness is in pointer of the design industry and near is a unenthusiastic to have that they are using their power to supplementary a Colorless opulent. What time they may suggest not to be extremist themselves, their actions utility to fresh Colorless might. It it any fearfulness that at a young age Black juvenile learn to underrate Whiteness?

The Black woman has long been seen as the decisive un-woman and anyway the understood advances, flex and gender conserve to set forth Black women at the bottom of the social ranking. Grandeur is but one sign of the ways in which we conserve to be "othered". Black women are called nutty in the past they fairly flog out against brash dislike of foreigners, for instance we are expected to toss our second-class status without sulk. That it is demanding to continually fee a competition to be illustrious as human and as a result dearest, is not careful. We are continually told that our power of speech is why Whiteness does not listen; until now, Black women are well hypersensitive that Colorless might is satirical to maintaining the flex and gender divisions, for instance it serves to ingrain power.

Ren'ee Thompson knows very well what she is up against:

"It does get very overwhelming. It gets to a point anywhere you feel like you are continually justifying your employment and what you can join in to the trade. You can only maintain so further loss up hang around and lasting rejection, or that fear every time you walk sooner than that casting bragging that you are departure to be reminded that next again you're a Black girl. Quitting "to me "seems like you're liberal in to that extremist admit or that you're liberal into saying that, that's fair enough that you think that. It's not fair enough. It's not fair enough that you think that I am distinct or trainee than. It's not, so I'm departure to accommodate right close to and be a sore in your eye until you stain what I am good for."

In the U.S near is a backlash for instance of a fear of a underperformance of Colorless remedy, and yet in every boulevard Black women assume not approached whatever draw near to likeness. We earn less, we die in advance and we raise our juvenile effectively in penury. In the media we are portrayed as offensive whores, breach addicts, powerless, or nutty, and yet we hike on in the face of a plucky coerce to assessment that we bracket tacit and invisible.

It is not colossal in the past we learn at the end of the carry that Ren'ee has bungled in her coerce to get a job for Grandeur Week. Dallas J. Logan, a design photographer points out, "Not anything wants to establish income in a Black model to do Gucci, Prada and Valentino, for instance they're Black and Black doesn't sell. Threshold quiet, income is lavish and Colorless people assume the income and they are departure to buy from Colorless people".

Until the day in which likeness becomes arrogant than some pseudo tolerant commotion word, and an respectable conception that society embraces, Black women will conserve to hike. At hand is zero pillar racial about the world in which we live. Whiteness may assume misrepresented the language of authoritarianism, so as to dignitary furtive, but it still exists to assessment that Blackness is silent to be not expensive. Due to a immersion of sexism and dislike of foreigners, Black women conserve look after the waves of the ferocity of Colorless might.

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