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Looking forward to asking out that special someone and worried about giving the right impression? Dating can be much trickier than it seems. It's so easy to read the wrong message into dates and every aspect of the date says something about your intentions, sometimes in ways you might never have imagined.

PLANNING THE PERFECT FIRST DATE

One of the first ideas that comes to mind when most people think of dates is the typical dinner and a movie. This is actually a bad choice, especially for that crucial first date when you are trying to get to know each other. Why?

* These dates are typically in the evening, which automatically ups the romance level, which could make both of you feel uncomfortable and awkward, not knowing what exactly is expected.

* The date can be quite expensive for whoever is paying. If you set the bar high in the beginning, you could struggle to keep up with yourself.

* A movie date is essentially two people sitting next to each other in the dark and not speaking for two hours straight. Save this for later when you are both more comfortable with each other and can hash out what you liked or didn't like about the movie afterward.

SO, WHAT ARE SOME BETTER FIRST DATE CHOICES?

* Stick with an afternoon date. It takes the pressure off and ratchets down the romance level. Consider bowling. It's fairly inexpensive, fun and low-key enough that you both can chat comfortably. Plus, it's in a public place, which can help both of you feel less pressured.

* Choose a calm environment, which won't overpower the date or make it difficult to keep a conversation going. You are here to learn more about each other and need to be able to chat without have to shout to be heard. A casual yet nice restaurant for lunch is a good choice.

* Don't plan to spend a fortune. How about a nice walk around a lake?

PLANNING THE PERFECT BLIND DATE

Planning a blind date with someone you meet through an online dating website or friend? These can be a bit trickier. Being one-on-one with a person you just met can be a high-stress situation for many people and safety needs to be taken into account, as well. Plan the date for a public place with plenty of people around. If you and your date were set up by a friend, planning a double date can be a good option, since both of you have someone familiar around to help facilitate conversation and find common interests.

PLANNING THE PERFECT SECOND DATE

Ready for the second date? Now is the time to start looking at a bit of a more romantic environment. How do you up the sexy factor without putting the pressure on?

* Plan this event for the evening. This instantly increases the intimacy of the date.

* Choose a quieter and more low-key location for the date. Try out an upscale restaurant or a lounge, where you can both order drinks and listen to some nice music.

* Plan an event that requires both of you to dress up a bit. A nice dress or a tie makes things more intimate and it's just plain fun!

No matter which date you are on, it can be helpful to have a back-up plan. Let's face it -- sometimes things go wrong. Rather than having a date turn into a disaster, with a plan B, you have a chance to salvage the date and the budding relationship.

* Plan for an alternate location. Didn't realize it was league night at the local bowling alley? Hit some miniature golf instead.

* Don't try to plan to the minute. This is a recipe for things to wrong. Go with the flow a bit.

* Have fun. Don't take dating so seriously. You are looking for someone who makes you happy. If things go wrong, don't stress out. Laugh and enjoy the company of your date, regardless of where you end up.

Recommended books (downloadable pdfs):

Steve Cowan - No Drama Online Dating
Brian Caniglia - Online Dating Secrets

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