I recently saw a heavily peacocked guy at a bar who thought he was a ladies man. Women laughed at his jokes and allowed him to have his hands all over them. However, what he didn't realize was that these women were humoring him. They were being nice because they felt sorry for him, then they'd quickly and politely extricate themselves.
What he was missing was something called calibration, which most of you read about on Day 28 of Rules of The Game. However, there's something I'd like to add to that: measure yourself by your RESULTS. If you go out and you're surrounded by women, yet you still sleep alone every night, it's time to examine your behavior and figure out what you're doing wrong.
Maybe you come across as the party guy, and no one takes you seriously. Maybe you're too touchy-feely and creeping them out.
Maybe they see you as a safe friend or someone to be used. Maybe you come off as lonely or weird, and they're trying not to be rude. Or maybe they even see you as a player, but to such a degree that they just don't trust you.
Think about it. Ask your friends. And don't be afraid to ask the women. Make sure you evaluate everything they say, and don't take it personally. If everyone is saying the same thing, don't disregard it - give it serious consideration.
This probably only applies to about one percent of you reading this - but you all definitely know someone like this. So help him out with a serious, non-judgmental, constructive talk and in-field lesson. What I did with this guy, when he didn't believe me, was approach the women he thought he had attracted, and convince them to tell him the truth for his own good - telling them things like, "He's going to be single for the rest of his life if you don't help him out right now. You can be like the Millionaire Matchmaker."
Recommended books (downloadable pdfs):Tyler Durden - On 7 Steps For Club Seduction
David Deangelo - Neil Strauss Interview Special Report
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